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Thank you all for the condolences! Lynnie, he was my hubby's brother and we were 21 & 22 when he was born.

On higher note...my bees layout made to LOTW. https://gallery.gingerscraps.net/showphoto.php?photo=557859&title=snowcrab-2021&cat=500
You can vote here if you like it.
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Thanks Ladies!
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I was wondering how he was so young....So sad, you must be devastated.

Congratulations on the nomination for LOTW :)
 
Karen sorry to hear about your loss.

carla that sounded like so much fun happy 40th

the explosion on my street is now being criminally investigated

i had my second vaccine dose Monday and have been just exhausted, the heat hasn’t helped, then storms.
Kids finishing up school.
 
Could use some of YOU prayer warriors to do your thing over the next week-ish.

My mom went into the hospital just north of her assisted living apartment EARLY Monday morning with shortness of breath, due to a valve going bad. She had a cardiologist appt for Monday afternoon anyway, so I went to get her Monday afternoon, to take her to her cardiologist appt and he ended up admitting her to United Hospital in St Paul (the cities) for fluid overload. So they're removing as much excess fluid from her body as possible. Based on the Echo they took a year ago and the one they took on Tuesday morning, it looks like her valve has gotten worse and they're testing her as a candidate for a TAVR https://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/transcatheter-aortic-valve-replacement/about/pac-20384698It's pretty slick, by the looks of it. Minimally invasive. She can't do open heart at her age and the UH doc says that doing nothing, her valve would last about 6-8 months. So, we're hoping that she qualifies. She'll be there for another couple days. I'm leaving town today to go scrapbooking, but only about an hour away, so close enough to race home if something happens and it looks like she could have the surgery as early as next Tuesday.
 
Prayers, Carla. I hope that it's a good fit for her and it brings her many more years with you.

My car battery's dead again, and I feel like a general failure of adulthood. Mental health is such a house of cards.
 
Prayers going up for you and your mom, Carla!

Sylfie, I think that's a perfect way to describe mental health! It looks like you could use prayers, too.

Plenty of people need prayers, it seems like, as the western U.S. is experiencing very hot temps, fires, and drought. Even here in the midwest, we are under a heat advisory. It is supposed to be over 100 F tomorrow, and that is a rarity. I'll be staying inside as much as possible.
 
last night my partner of five years informed me that in spite of being on the same page when we started dating five years ago, regarding children as a 'not now, but yes', it has now moved to 'probably not ever, also we don't have to live together ever, and it's fine if we just both live separately, and i will definitely never marry you and if that's a problem for you i'll pack my things tonight and we can be done'. and i don't know how to parse it. i slept terribly. i can't stop crying. i'm about to start working 2h early because if i don't do something, i am going to fall even further apart.


in his mind, what we have is fine- except that my neighbour made veiled threats about his car being here, so now instead of seeing each other most days of the week, we can see each other maybe 2-3. and he doesn't see that as a step backwards. just as something which was inevitable. i'm confused and hurt by that. i'm confused and hurt by a lot of this. he's 40 years old. being told he's "not ready for kids" at this point, when he has a steady career, savings, and property makes me feel like it's more of a "with you". but then why stay. why drag it out like this.


am 100% not ok.
 
Sylvan said:
last night my partner of five years informed me that in spite of being on the same page when we started dating five years ago, regarding children as a 'not now, but yes', it has now moved to 'probably not ever, also we don't have to live together ever, and it's fine if we just both live separately, and i will definitely never marry you and if that's a problem for you i'll pack my things tonight and we can be done'. and i don't know how to parse it. i slept terribly. i can't stop crying. i'm about to start working 2h early because if i don't do something, i am going to fall even further apart.


in his mind, what we have is fine- except that my neighbour made veiled threats about his car being here, so now instead of seeing each other most days of the week, we can see each other maybe 2-3. and he doesn't see that as a step backwards. just as something which was inevitable. i'm confused and hurt by that. i'm confused and hurt by a lot of this. he's 40 years old. being told he's "not ready for kids" at this point, when he has a steady career, savings, and property makes me feel like it's more of a "with you". but then why stay. why drag it out like this.


am 100% not ok.
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Oh my goodness me, I am so sorry. I can understand that you are incredibly hurt. Something similar happened to me with the guy I moved countries to be with so I do have a bit of understanding of all the emotions you must be feeling. I hung on to the shreds of the relationship for as long as I could but eventually accepted that we were no longer on the same page. I'm not saying that you should do the same - just letting you know that I understand how tough it is. Feel free to send message if you want to talk or rant or whatever!
 
Sylvan said:
last night my partner of five years informed me that in spite of being on the same page when we started dating five years ago, regarding children as a 'not now, but yes', it has now moved to 'probably not ever, also we don't have to live together ever, and it's fine if we just both live separately, and i will definitely never marry you and if that's a problem for you i'll pack my things tonight and we can be done'. and i don't know how to parse it. i slept terribly. i can't stop crying. i'm about to start working 2h early because if i don't do something, i am going to fall even further apart.


in his mind, what we have is fine- except that my neighbour made veiled threats about his car being here, so now instead of seeing each other most days of the week, we can see each other maybe 2-3. and he doesn't see that as a step backwards. just as something which was inevitable. i'm confused and hurt by that. i'm confused and hurt by a lot of this. he's 40 years old. being told he's "not ready for kids" at this point, when he has a steady career, savings, and property makes me feel like it's more of a "with you". but then why stay. why drag it out like this.


am 100% not ok.
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Oh honey, I'm so sorry. That stings. I don't know that I have any really good advice for you except that you have to take care of you first. If that means without him, then so be it. You're strong and beautiful, inside and out. You will survive this, no matter how it feels right now. I'm sending BIG, HUGE HUGS to you and prayers that you find comfort and the way you should go without too much pain.
 
Lily Ann, I hope things are getting better.

Carla, I have called up my TEAM of prayer warriors for your mum. Kee us posted.

Ane, I don't do well in heat either. The temp here has been all over the place and we had a thunderstorm yesterday. I don't remember when we last had drizzle in June, never mind thunder and lightening!

Sylfie, I don't think anyone can give you any helpful advice and it is hard to bring comfort from this far away. I will say that my daughter dated a man for 7 1/2 years who was not ready to commit to anything more. He liked things the way they were and would never have changed. She broke up with him and moved on and has had the best years of her life since then. He was a very nice young man, but what they wanted out of life had changed. You need to look into your heart and decide what you want for your future. If he is not going to give that to you, then you can decide if you are willing to give that up for this lifestyle. If not, then the sooner you move on, the sooner you will find what you need in life. I have lost two children, life is too short to waste it waiting. BIG HUG, whatever you decide.

Joy, I love that you have jumped right in and become part of us.

Karen, I keep thinking about your BIL. I feel so badly for you.
 
If I have not already mentioned it, I recently had a small inheritance. I received it the other day (after 18 months of the attorney selling the property and dividing the funds between the recipients) and paid off any money I owed, closed all my credit cards, and ordered new energy efficient windows. It will be lovely when it is all done. I also have enough for counter tops for my kitchen and we are looking into that.

Anyway, the downside of this is that we have to move things away from the windows so they can work. It will be three weeks to a month before the windows are installed. We thought that it would be a good time to downsize a few bookcases to minimize the moving. We sorted through dozens of books and managed to load up five big boxes of books to give away and one box of books for my daughter to review (poetry). We kept a lot of poetry books and spent an evening happily reading our favourites to each other.

Sadly, when he was carrying down boxes of books, my husband got a knee twinge that is still bothering him. I ordered a knee brace, hopefully that helps.
 
Carla, Hugs and prayers for your Mother.

Sylfie, I am so sorry to hear of your partner, I could not imagine and feel for your sadness. You are strong and will find what path you need to follow. HUGS!

Lynnie, I could not image going through so many books! Happy to hear you kept the ones that are dear to you. Sharing an evening to read your favorites to each other sounds wonderful. Hope your hubby feels better with the knee brace. Reading is not my hubby's thing, if fact he probably has only read 2 books in his whole life. LOL Thank you everyone for thinking of me...it has been hard for the family with my BIL, cremation has taken place and we are waiting for the burial (restrictions still on here).

Joy, happy to see you here!

Today, I am off to visit Mom and then hope to spend some time in the garden. I am back on my bike and particiapted in Bike Week, so many activities with loads of prizes. I wasn't a winner but I had so much fun and it was nice to get active again. I am hoping to keep up the momentum!

Have a great weekend!
 
OH NO!!! Ah, the best laid plans, huh, Lynnie? Hope hubs feels better soon.

Thanks for prayers. Keep them coming please.
Mom had some dental issues that had to be cleared up before they would do the surgery, so she went in on Friday to do that but, not knowing how extensive they might be, they pushed the surgery to June 29th. Thought they might have to pull some teeth but oral surgeon said no. I'm finding this out second-hand because my brother took her into that appt, so I don't know why "no", just that it doesn't have to be oral surgery and she'll be good to go.
 
Lynnie, how lovely that you sat and read poetry books - I love poetry but I don't often sit down and read it - and I also don't have anyone who shares my love of it. Hope your husband's knee recovers quickly.

Karen, what is bike week? Sounds fun. A bike is on my list of things to buy - I love cycling but haven't done much recently.

We finished for summer holidays on Wednesday and I had a lovely couple of days before going down with a cold - not surprising after the crazy school year we have had with some distance teaching and some in school - stressful and challenging!
 
Joy, It is a week that my city sponsers and they hold different bike activities to do everyday that week. You take a picture with the theme and then it is entered for prizes. It's funny that I said I did not win any prizes as yesterday I received an email that I won "a photo shoot, just me and my bike"! The photographer does some wonderful shots, I can hardly wait for this Thursday for the photoshoot. Stay tuned for a LO of "Bike Week" with all my photos I entered. Thanks for asking, I am super excited!!

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Lynnie, how lovely that you sat and read poetry books - I love poetry but I don't often sit down and read it - and I also don't have anyone who shares my love of it. Hope your husband's knee recovers quickly.

Karen, what is bike week? Sounds fun. A bike is on my list of things to buy - I love cycling but haven't done much recently.

We finished for summer holidays on Wednesday and I had a lovely couple of days before going down with a cold - not surprising after the crazy school year we have had with some distance teaching and some in school - stressful and challenging!
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Hi everyone. I've been scrapping more and not feeling so "pulled in every direction" :) Remi is six months old next wk and although she is always going to be a high energy, high attention needing dog, we seem to be finding a good balance with life. I play and train in the morning for a bit, get some work and scrapping done, then a bit more training and then she naps off and on for a few hrs, playing with Taz or by herself in my office. When I finish work at 5 (at home) then we go for a long walk or play in the soccer field close by and 3-4 times a week we go to the dog park for a few hrs for a long play time. While I'll never have as much "me" time as I used to, I'm ok with this, it's such a joy to have her. By next winter things will settle right down b/c then I can retire or just work part time if I want to. I'm on a few CT teams here now and am looking forward to hanging out again. So, I'm slowly inching my way back here :)
 
Carla - hope your mom can get the TAVR. I work for cardiologists and know they have great success with this.

Sylfie - think long and hard about what you want in your life, moving forward, and decide if you can live with the terms he laid out or if you need to move on to allow yourself to hopefully find what will really make you happy. I had a failed marriage, an 8 yr common-law relationship and then when I thought I'll never have the life I wanted, I finally found my forever guy who I married at 40 and its been almost 24 yrs now for us. It can happen but not always in the way we think.
 
Rae, nice to see you back here! :)

Joy, I hope you get to feeling better soon! :)

Me, I am just doing the things I normally do, which now includes physical therapy 3 times a week. I have about 3 weeks left of this, but my back is already feeling better enough that I don't have to medicate at night. I wish I could say the same for my mystery abdominal pain!

I don't have a lot to do these days, especially since Eren started driving themselves everywhere a year ago. I get out for PT or shopping though, which is nice, but other than that, there's not much reason for me to go anywhere. That suits me though, so I can't complain. I need to scrap more.
 
Karen, bike week sounds like so much fun! I looked at where you are located, thinking that you might be in The Netherlands with such a focus on cycling! Well done on winning the competition - I look forward to seeing your layouts.

Rae, sounds like you definitely have your hands full! Good that things are settling down. I often think that I might get a dog once everyone leaves home so that I'm not too lonely but I am not sure I want the commitment as I want the freedom to be able to travel to my daughter and to my family in England.

Ane, thank you for the get well wishes. I am more upset that it means I have to cancel my first covid injection which I had booked for tomorrow - obviously can't go out unwell. Which means a few weeks wait now until I can get a new appointment.

The upside is that I get to sit here and scrap without feeling that I should be doing other things!!
 
Carla prayers for your mom.

Sylvan, do what’s right for you. Life is too short to be put second.

The kids are both done school now, Alexis got 98 in chem 30, don’t know Austins mark in social 30 yet.
both of them got their second vaccine today, the. Whole family is done now.
 
So lovely to see you all chatting so much. It has been one heck of a week AND it iS ONLY TuESdAY!

My niece had an emergency appendectomy
One of my friends had major surgery on her mouth and promptly came down with a serious case of COVID
Another friend had a baby
Had to pick up my son's car from his wife's cousin's house and drive it up to him
There was Father's day thrown in the mix
Had to create a flyer for a concert
Daughter came over today and cleaned
Brother came over today and I made his favourite childhood dessert - he was in heaven
WENT TO PUB! It was lovely.

Still downsizing - goodness.

Big hugs to everyone. I will catch up shortly.
 
Busy day today, but I am feeling so accomplished :)

  • Made bed, unloaded dishwasher, cooked breakfast
  • Morning Bible time
  • Chiropractor appointment
  • Washed and vacuumed car
  • Grocery shopping
  • Got air in tires
  • Cooked lunch
  • Baked snacks for the week
  • Cooked dinner
  • Did a ton of dishes and housework
  • Wednesday night Zoom Bible Study
  • AND HERE I AM :)

It was a lot to pack in a day and I am so glad I did. I am on top of the world, the car and tires have been on my list for WEEKS.
 
Lily Ann, are you recovering from your fall? Any news about the work on the house.

Sylfie, any news on the BF? Are you feeling any better.

Karen, how are you all doing after losing your BIL? How did the bike ride go?

Carla, what happened with the TAVR? Is she good to go except for the dentist? We will be praying on 29th.

Joy, my husband and I do lots of stuff together. We are happier in retirement than ever and have found more things in common than we used to have. It is a good life for us right now.

Rae, it sounds as though Remi is settling in quite well and Taz is holding her own.

Ane, hoping they find the source of your pain one of these days. It is always fun to find a way to pass your time that you just love.

Sherri, Glad both kids are vaccinated now. I was a little worried with the reports of heart issues in younger people, knowing Alexis heart issues. But I prayed for them :)
 
Hey everyone, and happy Friday eve! LOL!

It's been a fun, whirlwind week. In non-pandemic years, I would have spent this week in Washington, D.C., with 40 teenagers. While I miss traveling with student leaders, I was grateful that I was able to stay home when the temps hit triple digits. The heat and humidity is one thing I do NOT miss! So this week has been spent with a VIRTUAL youth leadership conference. While a Zoom meeting isn't quite the same experience, I've done everything I can to make the conference fun and valuable to the students, and to also squeeze in a lot of education. We've had a great past four days, and we wrap up the event tomorrow. Whew!
 
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Hey everyone, and happy Friday eve! LOL!

It's been a fun, whirlwind week. In non-pandemic years, I would have spent this week in Washington, D.C., with 40 teenagers. While I miss traveling with student leaders, I was grateful that I was able to stay home when the temps hit triple digits. The heat and humidity is one thing I do NOT miss! So this week has been spent with a VIRTUAL youth leadership conference. While a Zoom meeting isn't quite the same experience, I've done everything I can to make the conference fun and valuable to the students, and to also squeeze in a lot of education. We've had a great past four days, and we wrap up the event tomorrow. Whew!
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I did not think of all the kids who have missed out on their school trips for the year. Sad...
 
Omgosh... Thanks so much for asking Lynnie. I totally forgot to update y'all. Dentist discovered NO infection so surgery is scheduled for next Tuesday, June 29th! YAY!

Mom's 92nd birthday was yesterday and I took her in for her pre-op physical and labs and then out to lunch and to the hair-dresser (LOL!!!).

PAINFULLY obvious that she needs this procedure. She's so easily winded when she walks, even short distances and it takes her a long time to get her breathing back under control. She even breathes "loudly" and "short" when sitting down. Really PRAYING that this works to it's fullest and she feels better in another week-ish. They said that she would only be in the hospital for a day, maybe two!

Praying for EVERYONE else online here, just so self-absorbed in Mom. Thanks for understanding.
 
We are just glad to know! Be as self-absorbed as you want (as long as you keep us in the loop, haha!)
 
For right now, we're still together. I have too many plates in the air to be completely alone right now, my mental health would rapidly deteriorate beyond the already not-entirely-stable situation I am currently in. I'm still looking at apartments, and I told my landlord that the upstairs fellow apparently hired someone to take out a tree without telling anyone. Only reason I knew was because he was surprised to find me home- he thought, given that Ale wasn't here, I wasn't either, so he could just do whatever he wanted. Told the landlord that I'll end up moving out sooner, rather than later, if this situation continues. None of it is ideal, but my assistant and another friend have both volunteered to help me move boxes whenever I need it.
 
Hi everyone!

Physical therapy is kicking my bum, in a good way. It doesn't feel that strenuous, but then I get home and I'm so tired, LOL! My back is feeling better and I'm confident it'll be good to go when I finish PT in 2 weeks.

A couple of storms blew through here last night, which, of course, woke me up. It's supposed to be cloudy and rainy for the next week, which will be nice. But, being a light sleeper, I prefer my storms during the day. :)

Tomorrow it's shopping again for me! But Sunday I will have a variation. Instead of a nap, I'm going to a parade Eren's marching band will be in. It's their senior year, and I've pledged to go to more of their band events. They are my baby and I can't believe they'll graduate in less than a year. Then what will I do?
 
Sylfie, I wish we could be of more help. It is hard going through what you are going through.

Ane, I am impressed with your use of pronouns for Eren. I would slip up all the time. You are so good to support them the way you do.
 
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