I Have Lost All Motivation

Pachimac

Pachimac

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I was so gung ho to lose weight and finally get healthy 3 years ago. I was doing so well, and then I got happy. We sailed through some marital issues and came out the other side. During that time of healing I gained back all the weight I had lost. Now, I can't find motivation to lose it again. Everything lately just seems so hard. Everywhere we go we are masked. It's freaking 110+ degrees outside. Foods I'm used to using are gone. People are paranoid of each other. I just feel like hiding, and hiding has caused me to find the Covid +20. HELP!!! I don't WANT to be this way, but obviously I don't want it enough to put out the effort. I know it's the foods I cook.

Any place you can point me to easy meals that picky teens will eat?
 
You need to calm down a little. As long as you are nervous and think negatively, nothing good will come of it. Take your time and don't force yourself. Maybe try going to the gym. When you start to work out muscles, listen to the needs of your body, you will experiment with food and understand that it satiates you better, what gives you energy better. Then gradually adjust your diet so that the weight will go away without fasting. Don't be afraid to eat meat, cottage cheese, avocados, nuts. Eat complex carbohydrates until 4 pm. Try to give up simple carbohydrates. Add stevia to tea and coffee instead of sugar - a safe, calorie-free sweetener. Well, in general, everything is much more complicated and if you are interested, I will tell you in more detail, because I myself have gone this way.
 
All of us are experimenting similar food problems, but try to calm down, do exercise in home, youtube have many inspiring videos, focus your attention in drink water, eat vegetables (boiled in case you are afraid of get covid), avoid fried food, but add 2 spoons of olive oil to your salads or boiled vegetables. Eat more protein and limited your carbohydrates to 20 - 30 grams at day, a bowl with oatmeal and some berries, at the morning is the best, and if you don't like oatmeal 2 slices of whole wheat bread with avocado, cheese, onion and some meat is a option. Don't eat rice and not milk, because they are basically sugar. Say yes to teas, there are many that calm down the nerves, like camomile, linden and orange blossoms. Get some multivitamins (read that include folic acid, magnesium citrate, zinc citrate, iron, B vitamins and iron). I myself have gone the same way.
 
Big hugs! I feel you on this. It's hard to be motivated when you're scared and so much is going on.

I will just add two things to what has been said above-

Taking care of yourself is the only way you can effectively take care of others. Don't try to do everything at once, start small with easier things like making sure you're drinking enough water, before you try and overhaul your whole life. Getting a few small successes under your belt will help you be motivated to do more things.

As far as picky eaters go, I have zero patience for that nonsense. If you don't like what I cook, you are welcome to fend for yourself. (I know that sounds mean, but I do incorporate foods I know my family likes into my meal plans) If I were you, I would assign everyone a dinner each week (or whatever works for your family) and let them prepare it. Be there to help them if they need it, but they're running the show for that night. These are life skills kids need to learn anyway. That might mean that you eat hot dogs and Mac and cheese a little more often until they build up their skills and are ready to branch out. But taking them through the steps in planning meals, shopping for food (or ordering it and picking up) and cooking are important things for them to learn.
 
Not having kids here, so I don't know so much about sites for teens, but I'm sharing with you my favorite site. I started keto a couple of years ago and even my mood changed. Good luck my dear and remember you are not alone. Sending tons of love

https://ketobeginners.co/
 
Nellie Rodriguez said:
You need to calm down a little. As long as you are nervous and think negatively, nothing good will come of it. Take your time and don't force yourself. Maybe try going to the gym. When you start to work out muscles, listen to the needs of your body, you will experiment with food and understand that it satiates you better, what gives you energy better. Then gradually adjust your diet so that the weight will go away without fasting. Don't be afraid to eat meat, cottage cheese, avocados, nuts. Eat complex carbohydrates until 4 pm. Try to give up simple carbohydrates. Add stevia to tea and coffee instead of sugar - a safe, calorie-free sweetener. Well, in general, everything is much more complicated and if you are interested, I will tell you in more detail, because I myself have gone this way.
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Thank you for your kind words. There is a Planet Fitness that is being built right by my house, so we have decided to join as a family. I have not lost any more weight, but I have stopped the gain, so I see that as a win. I can't do artificial sweeteners at all, so I just have to lump it.
 
Avia said:
All of us are experimenting similar food problems, but try to calm down, do exercise in home, youtube have many inspiring videos, focus your attention in drink water, eat vegetables (boiled in case you are afraid of get covid), avoid fried food, but add 2 spoons of olive oil to your salads or boiled vegetables. Eat more protein and limited your carbohydrates to 20 - 30 grams at day, a bowl with oatmeal and some berries, at the morning is the best, and if you don't like oatmeal 2 slices of whole wheat bread with avocado, cheese, onion and some meat is a option. Don't eat rice and not milk, because they are basically sugar. Say yes to teas, there are many that calm down the nerves, like camomile, linden and orange blossoms. Get some multivitamins (read that include folic acid, magnesium citrate, zinc citrate, iron, B vitamins and iron). I myself have gone the same way.
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Since posting this, I have done a lot of that. Tea is a great idea - I haven't tried that yet.
 
hclappy said:
Big hugs! I feel you on this. It's hard to be motivated when you're scared and so much is going on.

I will just add two things to what has been said above-

Taking care of yourself is the only way you can effectively take care of others. Don't try to do everything at once, start small with easier things like making sure you're drinking enough water, before you try and overhaul your whole life. Getting a few small successes under your belt will help you be motivated to do more things.

As far as picky eaters go, I have zero patience for that nonsense. If you don't like what I cook, you are welcome to fend for yourself. (I know that sounds mean, but I do incorporate foods I know my family likes into my meal plans) If I were you, I would assign everyone a dinner each week (or whatever works for your family) and let them prepare it. Be there to help them if they need it, but they're running the show for that night. These are life skills kids need to learn anyway. That might mean that you eat hot dogs and Mac and cheese a little more often until they build up their skills and are ready to branch out. But taking them through the steps in planning meals, shopping for food (or ordering it and picking up) and cooking are important things for them to learn.
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I only have one kid - so it would be one meal a week that would be Mac and Cheese - and yeah, she'd choose that! LOL

I have started going to AllRecipes.Com and am making 3 meals a week new ones. I'm actually finding that she has a finer palette than I thought. My cooking was just too boring!

I also am home schooling and she is taking a Health and Nutrition class which includes cooking - so this is helping!
 
hclappy said:
Big hugs! I feel you on this. It's hard to be motivated when you're scared and so much is going on.

I will just add two things to what has been said above-

Taking care of yourself is the only way you can effectively take care of others. Don't try to do everything at once, start small with easier things like making sure you're drinking enough water, before you try and overhaul your whole life. Getting a few small successes under your belt will help you be motivated to do more things.

As far as picky eaters go, I have zero patience for that nonsense. If you don't like what I cook, you are welcome to fend for yourself. (I know that sounds mean, but I do incorporate foods I know my family likes into my meal plans) If I were you, I would assign everyone a dinner each week (or whatever works for your family) and let them prepare it. Be there to help them if they need it, but they're running the show for that night. These are life skills kids need to learn anyway. That might mean that you eat hot dogs and Mac and cheese a little more often until they build up their skills and are ready to branch out. But taking them through the steps in planning meals, shopping for food (or ordering it and picking up) and cooking are important things for them to learn.
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You speak very correctly. New habits need to be developed gradually. First one thing, then another. If you immediately try to master a new way of life, this threatens with severe disruptions in nutrition, jamming and great stress.
 
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