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Oscaralley

Oscaralley

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Am I the only one that doesn't have many photos with their children (or family). My boys are 26 and 22 and I may have a handful of photos....and nothing current. It makes me sad but I hate taking pictures. I'm almost 50, I want my boys to have at least some memories of us when I'm gone. Oh and the boys hate their pictures taken...
Any suggestions on when and where to take pics? I've tried a couple of times while eating out and the certainly don't like that. UGH!!! HELP!!
 
I'm in that same boat. I hate my picture being taken and so does my mom. I only have a couple of us together and I am not thrilled with any of them. I was thinking of taking my mom to get facials and after we look all pretty, stop at target and get our pictures taken. Does Target still have a studio? I might have to check that out first.
Good luck Tanya. I am not sure how to bribe your boys into getting their pictures taken. Mothers day might be a good opportunity though. Do it for Mom! I say.
 
Your kids won't care what you looked like in the pictures - they will CHERISH them when we are gone. I spent many years hiding from the camera, and when my Momma died in 2015, I lamented how very few pictures I had with her. I realized that my pride will put Melissa in that position when *I* am gone, and I just can't do it to her. I don't care (well, I do, but...) what I look like - whether I feel fat or whatever, I am taking pictures and selfies all the time with her now. She loves it and I know she'll cherish them.
 
I don't have many photos of myself (or my mom) either. But I live about 1,200 miles from my mom and it eats at me, since her health is declining. So I'm going to take every opportunity I can when she's out here for my son's wedding in August. :)

As for getting pictures of family members, try it when they're not looking or paying attention. That's usually how I get mine, LOL!
 
Pachimac said:
Your kids won't care what you looked like in the pictures - they will CHERISH them when we are gone. I spent many years hiding from the camera, and when my Momma died in 2015, I lamented how very few pictures I had with her. I realized that my pride will put Melissa in that position when *I* am gone, and I just can't do it to her. I don't care (well, I do, but...) what I look like - whether I feel fat or whatever, I am taking pictures and selfies all the time with her now. She loves it and I know she'll cherish them.
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Thanks Susan.....I need to do this....no matter how I feel!!
 
Heidi1472 said:
I'm in that same boat. I hate my picture being taken and so does my mom. I only have a couple of us together and I am not thrilled with any of them. I was thinking of taking my mom to get facials and after we look all pretty, stop at target and get our pictures taken. Does Target still have a studio? I might have to check that out first.
Good luck Tanya. I am not sure how to bribe your boys into getting their pictures taken. Mothers day might be a good opportunity though. Do it for Mom! I say.
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Thanks Heidi....I will need it. Both boys will be here this weekend...hopefully I will get a few :)
 
AJsRandom said:
I don't have many photos of myself (or my mom) either. But I live about 1,200 miles from my mom and it eats at me, since her health is declining. So I'm going to take every opportunity I can when she's out here for my son's wedding in August. :)

As for getting pictures of family members, try it when they're not looking or paying attention. That's usually how I get mine, LOL!
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Ane....so sorry about your Mom. I hope you can get some great photos when she's there. I have started getting pics of them but mostly when they are eating...lol
 
I'm sad that I don't have any recent photos of my mom and I, although I do have some from when I was younger. She just doesn't like having her photo taken much anymore (she's 71). Birthdays and holidays seem to be the only time that we manage to get photos, if we are in the same city at the time!
 
Caylynn said:
I'm sad that I don't have any recent photos of my mom and I, although I do have some from when I was younger. She just doesn't like having her photo taken much anymore (she's 71). Birthdays and holidays seem to be the only time that we manage to get photos, if we are in the same city at the time!
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I don't think I have many of me and the boys when they were younger either. I'm always the one taking the photos and hate my pic taken. Hope you got some for Mother's Day.
 
Okay....so as yall know I was wanting to take pictures with my boys yesterday (Mother's Day) However, we had a mishap with our dogs. My girl, Sadie, attacked one of our other dogs. They are both female and both want to be dominate. Sadie is a pit mix and the one that got attacked is blue heeler mix. Anyways...long story short, Sadie got the other dogs ear and it needed stitches. I had blood every where. When I finally got out of the vet, all our company was already at our house eating and I looked like crap and was very upset that this had happened. I thought I might have to put my "best friend" down. The vet didn't think that was necessary and we are going to try some anxiety options with Sadie. What a day it was.......and NO photos!!!!
 
Oh that's awful, poor doggies! At least they are both OK and your vet hopefully has a solution. (((HUGS)))
 
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Oh that's awful, poor doggies! At least they are both OK and your vet hopefully has a solution. (((HUGS)))
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I know...right?!?! When I came home from work yesterday my husband said...I don't think Sadie is the one that needs that collar....maybe it's joey(she's the blue heeler mix....very high strung)....I had been thinking that all day because she is constantly growling about everything....Not like mean...but then it sets Sadie off and she's the bigger stronger dog. When they play, Sadie is always the one to roller over on the ground and be submissive. UGH!!! I hope those collars and plugins work. Thanks girl!!!
 
Oscaralley said:
Am I the only one that doesn't have many photos with their children (or family). My boys are 26 and 22 and I may have a handful of photos....and nothing current. It makes me sad but I hate taking pictures. I'm almost 50, I want my boys to have at least some memories of us when I'm gone. Oh and the boys hate their pictures taken...
Any suggestions on when and where to take pics? I've tried a couple of times while eating out and the certainly don't like that. UGH!!! HELP!!
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An even more heartbreaking perspective, I have lost two children, one when he was 23 and one when he was 41. When I was going back to create a video of their lives, there were almost no pictures of me with them. Children move on to other places. Two of mine are in heaven, one in England, one in Nashville and one who is local. I have lost my chance to have pictures with them. I have no childhood pictures of them in my arms, cuddling them, few pictures of them as children, few of them as teenagers and now, few as adults. You need the memories, too. I am short, chubby and not the prettiest woman in the world, but my children love me so much. I have tried to get more pictures when I am with them because I could kick myself that I didn't do it when I could.

When I created my 60th birthday video, I had to hunt to get enough pictures of me. It is not that I hate getting my picture taken as much as I am always the one taking the pictures. I have dozens of pictures of my husband with the kids on Father's day. I have a handful of me on Mother's day, because I have to remember to ask someone to take them. My husband and I went on holiday to England and France about 10 years ago. I took 3000 pictures, he took 1600. There are two pictures of me and neither of them are good. There are over 1000 of him and they are great. The kids were looking at a photo album a few years back and pointed out that few of the group pictures included me. I have asked my children to remind me to make sure I am in pictures so I have something to put in my 70th birthday video.

I have quite a few nice ones of me with my mum. We go to her Christmas party every year and the company does a formal picture.

Susan nailed it on the head - they don't care how you looked, they will cherish every picture they can find, which in my case is very few.
 
Oscaralley said:
Okay....so as yall know I was wanting to take pictures with my boys yesterday (Mother's Day) However, we had a mishap with our dogs. My girl, Sadie, attacked one of our other dogs. They are both female and both want to be dominate. Sadie is a pit mix and the one that got attacked is blue heeler mix. Anyways...long story short, Sadie got the other dogs ear and it needed stitches. I had blood every where. When I finally got out of the vet, all our company was already at our house eating and I looked like crap and was very upset that this had happened. I thought I might have to put my "best friend" down. The vet didn't think that was necessary and we are going to try some anxiety options with Sadie. What a day it was.......and NO photos!!!!
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Oh my gosh, you poor thing! What a Mother's day for you. I say have another Mother's day and make it happier.
 
Maybe what we need to do is have a challenge where we create pictures that we missed - digitizing two photos together!
 
FormbyGirl said:
An even more heartbreaking perspective, I have lost two children, one when he was 23 and one when he was 41. When I was going back to create a video of their lives, there were almost no pictures of me with them. Children move on to other places. Two of mine are in heaven, one in England, one in Nashville and one who is local. I have lost my chance to have pictures with them. I have no childhood pictures of them in my arms, cuddling them, few pictures of them as children, few of them as teenagers and now, few as adults. You need the memories, too. I am short, chubby and not the prettiest woman in the world, but my children love me so much. I have tried to get more pictures when I am with them because I could kick myself that I didn't do it when I could.

When I created my 60th birthday video, I had to hunt to get enough pictures of me. It is not that I hate getting my picture taken as much as I am always the one taking the pictures. I have dozens of pictures of my husband with the kids on Father's day. I have a handful of me on Mother's day, because I have to remember to ask someone to take them. My husband and I went on holiday to England and France about 10 years ago. I took 3000 pictures, he took 1600. There are two pictures of me and neither of them are good. There are over 1000 of him and they are great. The kids were looking at a photo album a few years back and pointed out that few of the group pictures included me. I have asked my children to remind me to make sure I am in pictures so I have something to put in my 70th birthday video.

I have quite a few nice ones of me with my mum. We go to her Christmas party every year and the company does a formal picture.

Susan nailed it on the head - they don't care how you looked, they will cherish every picture they can find, which in my case is very few.
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I am so sorry that you have had to go through losing children!! That breaks my heart and can't even imagine what you must have dealt with. I don't have the cuddling photos either. That is ONE good thing about all our technology and especially cell phones....people are always snapping photos with them. I hate my cell phone and forget that I can take photos with it. One thing though is that people forget to load them in safe places and when the phone dies a lot of times the photos die too. I have an old cell phone that we visited my family in Louisiana with. We have some pretty neat pics and for the life of me can't get them off of that dang phone. I still have the phone (somewhere..lol) and just need to bring it in somewhere and maybe they can help....it's kinda old now though!!!
 
Oscaralley said:
I am so sorry that you have had to go through losing children!! That breaks my heart and can't even imagine what you must have dealt with. I don't have the cuddling photos either. That is ONE good thing about all our technology and especially cell phones....people are always snapping photos with them. I hate my cell phone and forget that I can take photos with it. One thing though is that people forget to load them in safe places and when the phone dies a lot of times the photos die too. I have an old cell phone that we visited my family in Louisiana with. We have some pretty neat pics and for the life of me can't get them off of that dang phone. I still have the phone (somewhere..lol) and just need to bring it in somewhere and maybe they can help....it's kinda old now though!!!
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I am sorry I lost kids too :) But you know what, I am so totally blessed to have had them in my life. I don't weep myself to sleep every day and I don't live a life that is centered around loss. It did wake me up to the importance of memories and the fragility of life - so you had better believe I LIVE every day and I enjoy my family, good days and bad.

So... cell phones! Folks need to remember to save their cell phone pics frequently. I save my husband's and mother's pics all the time because they don't! I am obsessive about saving pictures and making sure I have every picture that was ever taken of all my children and my mother. You should see me saving every picture my kids and their friends post, I feel like a stalker sometimes. I think part of my obsessiveness is because I have so few pictures of the older boys. And trust, me, "so few" by my standards could mean PLENTY by other people's.

So, the moral of this story is - take plenty of pictures - make sure you are in a lot of pictures - make sure there are just pictures of you with the kids (or your mum) and save everything on your cell phone. Don't worry about what you look like, you are as beautiful on the outside as you are on the inside. It shines though your eyes, spills onto your face and the rest of you is irrelevant. Picture yourself looking at a picture of one of your children. What do you look at? The face and eyes - you don't look at the rest of them unless they are doing something really adorable. People look at who you are in pictures, not what you look like.
 
Oscaralley said:
Okay....so as yall know I was wanting to take pictures with my boys yesterday (Mother's Day) However, we had a mishap with our dogs. My girl, Sadie, attacked one of our other dogs. They are both female and both want to be dominate. Sadie is a pit mix and the one that got attacked is blue heeler mix. Anyways...long story short, Sadie got the other dogs ear and it needed stitches. I had blood every where. When I finally got out of the vet, all our company was already at our house eating and I looked like crap and was very upset that this had happened. I thought I might have to put my "best friend" down. The vet didn't think that was necessary and we are going to try some anxiety options with Sadie. What a day it was.......and NO photos!!!!
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Oh my goodness Tanya! That is horrible. How are they doing now? I'm so sorry you didn't get pictures. Make it happen again. Those boys need to give their momma a picture! I demand it. :)
 
Lynnie - Your positive-ness is so refreshing! I just love your attitude. Thank you for being here and reminding me to be positive and engaged in life. I tend to sit on the outside and look in. I don't have pictures of me cuz I don't like them. But my kids love seeing pictures of them with us when they were little. I actuallly am taking pictures of myself with my grandson so he knows I was present in his life. And I asked my son to take a picture of me with my Mom on Mother's Day, and I liked it. Surprise!!
 
Heidi1472 said:
Lynnie - Your positive-ness is so refreshing! I just love your attitude. Thank you for being here and reminding me to be positive and engaged in life. I tend to sit on the outside and look in. I don't have pictures of me cuz I don't like them. But my kids love seeing pictures of them with us when they were little. I actuallly am taking pictures of myself with my grandson so he knows I was present in his life. And I asked my son to take a picture of me with my Mom on Mother's Day, and I liked it. Surprise!!
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Thank you :) That is such a nice thing to say. I don't like lots of pictures of me, but I let it go. Pretty is as pretty does, my grandad always used to say. I try to make most of my 'pretty' shine through with the things I do. Hopefully the wrinkles, the rolls of 'chub' and the less attractive parts that show up in photos will assume a rosy glow in their minds as they remember the things we do together, the times I have helped when they needed and the time I have encouraged them. I am all about handing them a never-ending supply of rose-coloured glasses.
 
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