Lost friendships

craftytam

craftytam

Executive Chef, *Master in the kitchen!*, *Scrapp
Over the last 8 years, our family has gone through some major losses and changes. It's been a very difficult time, but we never would have experienced the growth that we have without the fire that we went through. For the first part of this period of time, I had a friend who was always there for me. In the last couple of years, we grew apart and really don't have any relationship at all. I think the blame goes to both of us, but I'm feeling really guilty and sad.
I think at this point, I've outgrown the friendship, but I'm not sure if I should say anything {maybe apologize for my failures} or if I should just let it go.
Have you ever had a friendship that "died"? How did you handle it?
 
Let it Go---

"at some point you have to realize that some people can stay in your heart but not in your life."

best of luck.
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Thanks, Michi! :)
I guess I need to watch Frozen and get the song stuck in my head.
 
(((HUGS))) Tammy... losing a friend is a very tough thing, even if you've outgrown the friendship. I tend to be a fixer and hate to let go of things, so that would be hard for me, but it sounds like it might be the right thing for you. I had a best friend growing up that I was really close with until about 8th grade. She started working, and I started hanging out more with my band friends... and we really grew apart. Looking back, I know that I chose my "new" friends over her. Thankfully, we did find our way back to each other (ironically, when we both went away to college) and she is still one of my best friends today. :)

I hope things work out for you.
 
Some friendships just vanish, for no real reason, others can be rekindled...
I've purposely not entertained friendships in the past, and have lost some unintentionally....
If you feel you have nothing to gain from the friendship at the moment, and your friend doesn't need you (she'll call if she does) then don't worry too much about it. If you really miss her, contact her. (however it does sound like you don't really miss her ... like the quote said she might be in your heart but you might not need her by your side).
Sometimes trying to fix things isn't that great, you end up with a still-broken thing, covered in tape to hold it together! :)
 
And sometimes, a part re- coonnects in FB and yall can just like.

let it go...
m
 
Sorry to hear this for you... With any relationship, there are 3 types... people are with us for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. Some friendship aren't meant to be there forever. Sometimes to just get through a hurdle, or a particular time in our lives.... but maybe reflect why she is there and then you can make a determination about the next step.. Big hugs!
 
Thank you all so much for your wise advice. :kisses

I think you are right - the friendship was for a season, and now I'm at a different place.
I'm so good at beating myself up over things that sometimes it's hard to look at an issue objectively.
I really do need to start singing "Let it go!"
 
I have friends that just touch base as needed and others I'm connected with more frequently. It sounds like your needs have changed and maybe hers have as well. I wouldn't try to rekindle it unless you really wanted to be committed to the friendship again. Your heart will make the right call. =)
 
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