I had a little meltdown today....

lorigaud

lorigaud

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just at the thought of my oldest son going off to college. He leaves in 3 weeks. Give me any advice for how I'm going to keep myself from becoming a ridiculous mess when I leave him in Pennsylvania. This is going to be so hard, despite how excited I am for him. :(
 
big hug to you, my friend.. I can imagine how hard this must be :(. but, I also think AJ is an amazing young guy and he'll do great! you can be very proud of him :kisses
 
lorigaud said:
just at the thought of my oldest son going off to college. He leaves in 3 weeks. Give me any advice for how I'm going to keep myself from becoming a ridiculous mess when I leave him in Pennsylvania. This is going to be so hard, despite how excited I am for him. :(
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I can't even imagine the day! HUGS and prayers. I wish I had some advice, but I know I'd be a mess too.
 
Take it a day at a time. Yes...it is hard to watch this next step in his life.
You've raised him well- and he will always have his roots.
Enjoy every stage of his life as his earns those wings.

To His next big adventure and yours. I found this to share.

Roots & Wings

If I could give you many things,

I'd give you gold and silver rings

Of knowledge that I've gained with years

The gift of smiling through the tears

Confidence, courage, determination,

Laughter and spirit and love of creation,

Wrapped up in a box with a bow, I'd give

To you these gifts to keep for as long as you live.

"If I could give you just two things,

One would be Roots, the other, Wings."

Roots, not to tie you to the ground,

But to guide you to where your fulfillment is found

The nourishing start, the firm foundation,

The source of your inner determination.

Wings to soar over obstacles, wings to fly free,

Wings to glide to the heights of the best you can be.

And when obstacles loom, from your Roots grows a hand

Providing a strong, sturdy,safe place to land.

I'd choose these two things for the gifts that are best,

For with Roots and with Wings, you'll find all the rest!
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Oh, Lori! one day at a time... I totally understand how you're feeling....I'm still dealing with it from my daughter getting married in January! :) The biggest thing I've worked on is allowing myself to feel the sadness and then move past it. At first it will be really hard, but as time goes on, it will be a bit less and less.
Thank goodness for technology....Facebook, Skype and Facetime!
:kisses
 
I have one the same age, luckily she is going local. You will see him mature in leaps and bounds this year...look forward to that. I hope that helps.
 
Mine aren't college age yet, but we've said goodbye several times to my husband while he's deployed. Biggest advice, stay strong, don't cry in front of him and take each day as they come. Before you know it, he'll be home for break!! Find a few friends, who are going through the same thing to lean on for strength when you miss him and want to give him a hug. They'll understand and they'll be there to hold your hand. While we may not know what it feels like, we are here for you as well! <3

Michelle, that made me cry!! It was beautiful, but still!!
 
Where is he going in Pennsylvania? Where do you live? 4 years ago I flew to Pennsylvania (from California) while my parents drove my oldest daughter to her first year at Lehigh (from Nebraska). And we met there to move her in. I held it together pretty well during move in because she was so clearly annoyed with us and wanted us gone, LOL. But I sobbed so much on the plane trip back to California. She transferred halfway through her junior year to Kansas State, graduated in May with dual degrees, and has a good job and living on her own ... less than 30 minutes away. It's the nearest we've lived since 2008 (when I went off to law school in California and she stayed in Nebraska with my ex husband to finish high school).

I've loved watching her grow from a child/young adult that you are in high school to the very accomplished young woman she is today. Having adult kids is awesome! You can be friends, a mentor, a shoulder to lean on, but you don't have to scold them or keep track of them or monitor their late nights :)

Wishing you the best on this journey to a different time of your parenting.
 
Thanks so much for all of your kind words and suggestions!

I will do my best to keep from crying in front of him.... LOL. Could be tough!

AJ is going to school at Elizabethtown College, which is a very small private college near Hershey/Harrisburg PA, about 8 hours from us in Maine. He won't be coming home until Thanksgiving most likely, but his brothers and I may go down to visit over a long weekend. We'll see.
 
Hey, what's wrong with PA?? It's a really good place to send your son, except Pittsburgh would be better! And you'll be just fine, because he will return.
 
LOL Donna! Nothing wrong with PA... it's beautiful! Hopefully at some point while he's there, we can meet up!
 
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