hugs to you, Berniek! <3
I think you must focalize yourself on the other face of the coin (did you see the movie "Silver Linings Playbook"? You MUST watch it!): you don't have a job, so you can travel and get tan; you don't have a baby so you can stay out all night long ;)
Personally I don't have a job in "the real life", I have only male friends, I haven't any babies and I can't get tan (I'm really pale...lol).
BUT: I have a "online job" that I LOVE, I love my male friends and I usually go dancing every week without any babies...lol!
Just to say you: look at the bright side!