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AmyP
06-22-2012, 11:10 PM
Are you happy to see friends/family when they just show up at your door without fore-warning? I have to say that when someone comes over for a visit I like to know before hand. My mother-in-law just shows up at my house and wants to visit. I would be happy to welcome her if I was expecting her. When people come over I like to have my house ready and my schedule/to-do list clear. When she just pops in I put on my happy face, but inside I am rolling my eyes and saying grrr lol.

So who here loves the surprise visitor? Who doesn't? :)

Sarah
06-22-2012, 11:16 PM
I dislike them because I would like warning that I need to put on a bra ;)

msbrad
06-22-2012, 11:30 PM
Sarah you made me LOL!

No Amy, not really. Sometimes DD pops in, and that is usually ok. I would NEVER do that to someone. IF I'm not expecting someone, I don't answer the door.
I also donot answer the phone, if I am not familiar with the number. [the : 1 8oo service or private callers....forget it]

I'm fine IF I know someone is coming.
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Nickala27
06-23-2012, 12:45 AM
lol Sarah!

I don't like unannounced visitors either, because they tend to show up at the most inconvenient times . I appreciate a phone call (even if they are only 5mins away) before they drop in - it gives me the opportunity to either say its not a good time or madly hide the mess.

Ambelleina
06-23-2012, 12:49 AM
I *haaaaate* when people just show up. I feel like it's rude. My mom just stopped by at 10pm last night to "give me something" she could have waited til today to give me. Just because we live close, she think she has free reign to just show up at my apartment, plop herself on my couch and talk about nothing for half an hour when I'm trying to get ready to go to sleep. It just bugs the heck out of me; I would never just show up at someone's home unannounced!

Psychozoe
06-23-2012, 12:55 AM
I like unannounced visitors if they are my family. I don't have family around anymore, so I miss it a lot. I don't mind when some people come by, but if it's salesmen, I hate that the very most!!!

I tell them if I wanted to buy something, I would have already got online or went to the store...

Lately the only people 'popping' in are my 2 teenage sons' girlfriends or friends, so it's all good. If they are not here to interrupt my designing or whatever I'm doing and the kids will usually leave with their friends so it means quiet time. :)

Psychozoe
06-23-2012, 12:57 AM
oh and I always say, "I hate it when people stop by when I'm in the middle of a project," and my husband says, "But you're always in the middle of a project" so I quit complaining....hehe

Psychozoe
06-23-2012, 01:03 AM
. My mother-in-law just shows up at my house and wants to visit. I would be happy to welcome her if I was expecting her.
:)

If my mother in law lived in town, that would be hard. She's a super talker and I'm not.. after a while of listening to her, my brain shuts down.... I have to 'work myself up' before I have any visits with her.

kelley
06-23-2012, 01:09 AM
I absolutely despise it when people show up unannounced. The exception would be my own kids when they are older, lol. I think showing up without calling first/making plans is one of the rudest things you can do. Seriously though, I don't have time for people who just show up - half the time they are salespeople. I just plain don't answer the door or phone if I don't know who it is. I probably sound rude, but I just can't stand it and it makes me uncomfortable not knowing who it is. LOL I'm crazy. DH thinks I'm a nut, because his family is totally fine with people just randomly showing up. He always wants me to walk down and ask his mom something (they only live a block away), and I'm like no way!! I will NOT just show up at someone's house, ever.

Tree City
06-23-2012, 02:37 AM
When she just pops in I put on my happy face, but inside I am rolling my eyes and saying grrr lol.

Just don't answer the door. ;) That's what I've done. :poof:I never answer it if I'm not expecting someone. I won't answer it for men, women, people with clip boards lol, delivery people (except my really awesome USPS mail carrier cuz I know her), or anyone else. Once, my neighbor knocked on my door. She was with some lady I didn't know: I figured they were trying to sell me something so I just didn't answer the door. Turns out, she was gonna ask me to watch/feed/take out her birds, 4 dogs, and Lord knows how many lizards for 3 months(!) while she was on vacation (the woman with her was going to "help" me do it). Glad I didn't answer the door!

I don't like unannounced visitors for the same reason you don't: I want my house to be in order and my schedule cleared, and with a 4mo, I need TIME to get it cleaned up lol!

My MIL tried to plan a "surprise visit" here for Mother's Day the year we'd moved here. She lives in MI, we're in TX. So... she wanted to fly 1,400 from home to "surprise" me, her DIL who doesn't like her, with a visit...for MOTHER'S DAY?! I told DH that if she ever shows up on my doorstep unannounced, I'm calling the cops. DH knows I'm not kidding. It's not that I want her arrested: it's that I want her to finally, for once, understand that this is my life with my husband and these are our kids (not "my grandbabies," which is the only way she's ever referred to them). OMG, this "surprise visit" thing was 3 years ago and it STILL drives me nuts. Funny thing, she sent an email to DH, my SIL and her husband, and me just a month ago: She wanted to plan a "surprise birthday vacation" for her hubby in Jan. She wanted to come here! SIL lives in WA, and like I said, FIL and MIL live in MI. I want to rip my hair out. Thankfully DH handled that by politely explaining how we can't have DD out of school for a week, etc etc. Oy. I told DH "She doesn't want to surprise him with a visit here cuz HE wants to come here. She wants to come here cuz she wants to see her grandkids and she's using FIL's bday as an excuse, just like she used Mother's Day as an excuse to 'surprise' me. FIL doesn't want to come to TX for his birthday. He comes here all the time for visits. He's gonna want to go somewhere special." DH told MIL to ask FIL where he wanted to go...turns out he said Alaska. Bwahahahahaha!
So long story short lol, it's funny you posted this cuz it just drives me nuts and we just had to deal with something like this.

AmyP
06-23-2012, 10:56 PM
I'm glad I'm not the only one who is less than happy to see an unexpected guest lol! I think I want one of those driveway alarms so I when it dings I know to look out the window to see who is coming lol.

nikkiecole71
06-24-2012, 12:58 AM
I HATE it. Doesn't give me the chance to lock my front door when it's my mother in law.

Terra
06-24-2012, 01:34 AM
Ugh... HATE unexpected visitors! HATE THEM! One... I don't have kids at home so I'm NEVER dressed... so when my grandmother (who doesn't seem to know how to use a phone) stops by to drop off something she could've given me the next day or even later that day when I'll be over there to see her... GRRR... I always feel like she must think I'm *hiding the bongs* or something equally untrue but scandalous because I'm racing around trying to find pants to throw on. I'd keep a pair out in the living room but who knows what Gus would do with them, lay on them... Take them to his lair... it's crazy... I can't NOT answer the door because by now you've heard my loud mouth inside so you know I'm in there.

Yeah, I can't STAND it when people just show up! What if I was having a private moment? Am I supposed to stop just because you rang the door... and how do I explain being out of breath? We all know I'm not on the treadmill... Anyhoo... yeah... use the phone people... use the phone.

scrappydoo82
06-24-2012, 01:56 AM
hehe nothing's better than having to say oh hold on I have to go put my bra on when you have someone coming over!


I don't mind it when the house is clean but I do have times that irritate me when friends stop by and want to stay even when they know your about to eat dinner.


I dislike them because I would like warning that I need to put on a bra ;)

catgoddess
06-24-2012, 03:46 AM
I keep at least a 1000 mile distance between me and all relatives. No drive-by visits for me. I can't stand them! Wes and I both work from home and have for many years, so people think, oh, you're home doing nothing so they stop on by. Hello! WORK from home, people.

Ambelleina
06-24-2012, 04:51 AM
What if I was having a private moment? Am I supposed to stop just because you rang the door... and how do I explain being out of breath? We all know I'm not on the treadmill... Anyhoo... yeah... use the phone people... use the phone.


this happened to me today.

i did not stop.

:blush

MSPeeler
06-24-2012, 08:07 AM
Just don't answer the door. ;) That's what I've done. :poof:

I do this too, and then get a phone call 20-30 minutes later with, "Where are you?", "We just came by", lol....

conniep
06-25-2012, 01:30 PM
THIS LOL!!!!

I dislike them because I would like warning that I need to put on a bra ;)

missdamsel
06-25-2012, 03:50 PM
I don't mind them at all as long as I know them.

javanilla724
06-25-2012, 07:01 PM
Depends on who :) My neighbour came to my door at 9:30 at night to ask me for an axe - wth???? Woke my kids up and everything. Why would I have an axe and what does he need it for at 9:30 at night....

Psychozoe
06-25-2012, 08:46 PM
We sometimes have missionaries drop by, which in itself I don't mind because I enjoy their visits if they are scheduled.... but sometimes they would drop by at strange times, and if my kids are at school, I'm not usually dressed for the day.

One time this happened, and I knew it was them at the door, and I didn't answer. They knew I was home.... but later that evening after they called to make an appointment, they mentioned that they came by earlier. I didn't want to appear deceptive, (and I like to shock people), I said, "oh, yes, I knew it was you and I didn't answer because I wasn't dressed," and these are young men around 19... lol.... they always called for appointments after that.

webdesignmom
06-25-2012, 08:56 PM
No, I don't like it. I would rather know at least a few hours before hand if someone is coming over. My in-laws are famous for stopping over just because they are driving by. And they do this even though they know we are busy. I guess they haven't learned that is how they become outlaws lol.

rdjrneace
06-25-2012, 10:35 PM
I hate surprise visitors and actually bought the driveway alarm so I would know if someone is coming. I am very lucky that my children call before they come (typically).

StarWarsFans
06-26-2012, 01:50 AM
Some of you might remember my problem with a recurrent unanounced vistor last summer who would drop off unwanted boxes of unwanted toys and whose children would destroy my house. We eventually started keeping the blinds shut and the lights off 24/7. Yeah, it was bad. I was sooooooooo glad when they moved 20 miles away!

zeee
06-26-2012, 06:14 AM
all your posts made me LOL! :)

I also don't like unexpected visitors since when I'm home, I'm usually not dressed for visitors. Good thing we live in CA now as we don't really have a lot of relatives here.. but when we were in the Philippines.. it was a different story. LOL

We seem to have a house where people love to gather. I don't really mind that much, though. If it's my hub's friends, they just hang out in the garage and do whatever it is they want to do without bothering me.. LOL if it's my friends, they call and let me know they're dropping by..haven't had any un-announced visits from them! Yay!

Errmm.. but we are guilty of barging in.. haha FIL and MIL live a block away and we love to drop by once in awhile especially when hubby doesn't want to cook.. there's always food at their house.. hahaha they don't mind, though.. so no worries. My SIL lives a couple of towns away and we love to drop by, too. No worries there since my BIL works at home and doesn't mind either..

My favorite thing to do is visit my aunt who also leaves a few miles away. She raised me so she knows how I am.. and I love to annoy her by ringing her doorbell multiple times until she opens the door. :)

Tree City
06-27-2012, 12:16 AM
Tricia, when I read this thread's title, I thought about your "unexpected and annoying" visitor lol.
So the high temp here was 104 today. I'm currently wearing a tank top and undies and I'm still sweating. Good thing no one stop by today cuz I'm a sweaty half-dressed mess! (Our a/c can NOT handle this heat and no matter what temp we set our thermostat, the a/c can only get the house to about 80 degrees. *sigh*)

StarWarsFans
06-27-2012, 02:50 AM
Tricia, when I read this thread's title, I thought about your "unexpected and annoying" visitor lol.
So the high temp here was 104 today. I'm currently wearing a tank top and undies and I'm still sweating. Good thing no one stop by today cuz I'm a sweaty half-dressed mess! (Our a/c can NOT handle this heat and no matter what temp we set our thermostat, the a/c can only get the house to about 80 degrees. *sigh*)

I thought you might remember! LOL!

Our highest temp today was 114. When we drove past the bank at 7:00, their themometer still read 112. It's nasty. I'm sorry your A/C doesn't cut the mustard Sara. That's miserable. :(

prettyingreen
06-27-2012, 09:31 PM
no i do not! My MIL thinks i never clean because the days she happens to stop by i havnt got to cleaning yet... ugh! My DH loves to just pop by his friends houses all the time and im like thats so rude, we dont want that so why do you do that to them!
lol i saw this on facebook
http://i74.photobucket.com/albums/i272/glamrockingirl/552720_10151038923897239_1016917592_n.jpg

scrapjrlgcp
06-28-2012, 12:03 AM
rachel that e card describes me exactly :)

StarWarsFans
06-28-2012, 02:10 AM
I wiped down the table after breakfast this morning and my daughter asked, "Who's coming to our house?" Sad, but true.

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prettyingreen
06-28-2012, 03:54 AM
I wiped down the table after breakfast this morning and my daughter asked, "Who's coming to our house?" Sad, but true.

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HAHAHAHA! my kids do the same thing when we ask them to pick up their toys... whos coming over? LOL

Tree City
06-28-2012, 04:28 AM
HAHAHAHA! my kids do the same thing when we ask them to pick up their toys... whos coming over? LOL
lol, DD says that when I put pants on. "Mommy, why are you getting dressed? Who's coming over? No one? Then are WE going somewhere?!" Ah, from the mouth of babes...

StarWarsFans
06-28-2012, 07:25 PM
lol, DD says that when I put pants on. "Mommy, why are you getting dressed? Who's coming over? No one? Then are WE going somewhere?!" Ah, from the mouth of babes...

Oh yeah, that too! If I put on makeup the kids immediately ask where we're going!

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melbailey
03-20-2013, 08:49 PM
Thank you all for the help!!! I was trying so hard to find some answers to this and sooo glad I found your site!! My son's friends are always over, and most of them either walk home, I take them, or if their parents come, they just honk or text them and run out the door to the car. They don't even come to the door.

This one mom, who the son hasn't been over much, has done the same the only couple times he's been over. So it's last Sunday afternoon, I'm cleaning, dogs are all over, etc. and I'm on the phone with someone I don't get time with often, and she's going through some things and is upset. Door bell rings, and it's this kid's mom! So I try to talk a little, it seemed weird, like she was trying to make conversation with me. I mean, come on, there's a dresser in my living room, I have rags, and I'm on the phone! I was torn as to what to do, I felt totally trapped. She kept hanging around and trying to talk while she waited for him to come up. So I tried to talk to her a little while apologizing to the lady I was talking to on the phone and keep the dogs at bay. If I know you're coming, I have them arranged. He runs up, and they leave.

Fast forward, Sunday morning, this woman confronts me at church, telling me how rude I am, how she's never been to my house before, and I should have asked her if she wanted anything, blah blah blah, and how I am so rude b/c I never even got off the phone, and then she won't even let me speak to express how awkward it was for me to figure out who to talk to, or what to do with my cleaning! She's telling me that I should have hung up on the person, and called them back later! Then, after she gets done telling me how rude I was, etc, she walks away while I'm trying to talk!! I thought she was quite rude, and then thought what do you do in that situation. I didn't want to be rude to the person I was already talking to either, and I had no idea this woman was coming over, and the place was in mid-cleaning no less! I actually thought she was going to say something about the living room and the dresser in there! And then I thought, she just dropped in completely unexpectedly, and it's kind of narcissistic for her to think that she is more important than Everything else that was going on at that moment! I mean, it's clear that I'm in the middle of a hundred things. So I was trying so hard to figure this out, and I am so glad to find out that she after all, is rude for showing up for a "visit" without asking, and expecting me to entertain her! I felt like she was kind of inconsiderate of the fact that I had no idea she was coming, and that it was obvious that I was doing a bunch of other stuff, and didn't expect anyone. But she clearly thinks that I should have just stopped it all, hung up on someone, and sat her down for tea and crumpets!!

StarWarsFans
03-20-2013, 11:10 PM
Some of you might remember my problem with a recurrent unanounced vistor last summer who would drop off unwanted boxes of unwanted toys and whose children would destroy my house. We eventually started keeping the blinds shut and the lights off 24/7. Yeah, it was bad. I was sooooooooo glad when they moved 20 miles away!

Wow. This old thread resurrecting has really hit me. The person I was talking about in this post died in a car accident 3 months after I wrote this. I've thought a lot about how I could have been a bit more gracious and hospitable about the whole situation. Hindsight is always 20/20 I suppose.

StarWarsFans
03-20-2013, 11:12 PM
Thank you all for the help!!! I was trying so hard to find some answers to this and sooo glad I found your site!! My son's friends are always over, and most of them either walk home, I take them, or if their parents come, they just honk or text them and run out the door to the car. They don't even come to the door.

This one mom, who the son hasn't been over much, has done the same the only couple times he's been over. So it's last Sunday afternoon, I'm cleaning, dogs are all over, etc. and I'm on the phone with someone I don't get time with often, and she's going through some things and is upset. Door bell rings, and it's this kid's mom! So I try to talk a little, it seemed weird, like she was trying to make conversation with me. I mean, come on, there's a dresser in my living room, I have rags, and I'm on the phone! I was torn as to what to do, I felt totally trapped. She kept hanging around and trying to talk while she waited for him to come up. So I tried to talk to her a little while apologizing to the lady I was talking to on the phone and keep the dogs at bay. If I know you're coming, I have them arranged. He runs up, and they leave.

Fast forward, Sunday morning, this woman confronts me at church, telling me how rude I am, how she's never been to my house before, and I should have asked her if she wanted anything, blah blah blah, and how I am so rude b/c I never even got off the phone, and then she won't even let me speak to express how awkward it was for me to figure out who to talk to, or what to do with my cleaning! She's telling me that I should have hung up on the person, and called them back later! Then, after she gets done telling me how rude I was, etc, she walks away while I'm trying to talk!! I thought she was quite rude, and then thought what do you do in that situation. I didn't want to be rude to the person I was already talking to either, and I had no idea this woman was coming over, and the place was in mid-cleaning no less! I actually thought she was going to say something about the living room and the dresser in there! And then I thought, she just dropped in completely unexpectedly, and it's kind of narcissistic for her to think that she is more important than Everything else that was going on at that moment! I mean, it's clear that I'm in the middle of a hundred things. So I was trying so hard to figure this out, and I am so glad to find out that she after all, is rude for showing up for a "visit" without asking, and expecting me to entertain her! I felt like she was kind of inconsiderate of the fact that I had no idea she was coming, and that it was obvious that I was doing a bunch of other stuff, and didn't expect anyone. But she clearly thinks that I should have just stopped it all, hung up on someone, and sat her down for tea and crumpets!!

That is insane! I can't believe she would accuse you of all that when SHE was the one who showed up unannounced. Yikes!

Ambelleina
03-21-2013, 12:49 AM
Wow. This old thread resurrecting has really hit me. The person I was talking about in this post died in a car accident 3 months after I wrote this. I've thought a lot about how I could have been a bit more gracious and hospitable about the whole situation. Hindsight is always 20/20 I suppose.

:(

Now I feel bad about saying how my mom always comes over! Both of my sisters have now moved out of her house as well and she's depressed. She was telling me the other day she's sad, feels lonely and when it was time for her to go, she sadly sighed and quietly said, "Well...I guess I'll just go home now." I feel terrible for having said she bugs me when she shows up randomly now. :-/

Angelclaud
03-21-2013, 06:32 AM
:laughhard: to all the posts. Sorry about some of the problems that you all have with unexpected visitors though.

melbailey, I definitely feel it's rude to expect one to hang up on the other person just because you came to visit. I mean, it might be something important, more important than a Mom who's just here to pick up a son.

We almost rarely gets unexpected visitors. Normally, they would at least call a couple of hours in advance before the visit so that's good.

daisysmiles4you
03-23-2013, 08:16 PM
I don't like unexpected visitors and I would never show up unannounced. I don't think I could do it. I don't see how you can show up somewhere if your not expected. It's not like you friends and family are a store.