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Ambelleina
05-18-2012, 02:34 PM
...do you go with the safe, yet dull...

...or the adventurous, yet unknown?

Why?

PixelsByJen
05-18-2012, 02:48 PM
Safe and dull, but only because I have kids, LOL

mamaape
05-18-2012, 03:19 PM
Oh BrainTwin....

Tree City
05-18-2012, 04:11 PM
the adventurous, yet unknown. except with food. if the choice is between toast with butter or squid in curry sauce, I'll take the toast rotfl!

nutsaboutgabe
05-18-2012, 04:36 PM
I think for me it would depend on the topic/setting in which I needed to make the decision, but because I don't like to answer blindly, I'll say safe and dull.

StarWarsFans
05-18-2012, 04:48 PM
Safe and dull every time, yet dream of adventure and the unknown and wish I were brave enough to try.

photom
05-18-2012, 05:05 PM
Safe and dull every time, yet dream of adventure and the unknown and wish I were brave enough to try.
Yep! That explains me to a t!

Ambelleina
05-18-2012, 05:18 PM
Safe and dull every time, yet dream of adventure and the unknown and wish I were brave enough to try.

oh, tricia, it's like you're reading my thoughts!

prettyingreen
05-18-2012, 05:54 PM
I think for me it would depend on the topic/setting in which I needed to make the decision, but because I don't like to answer blindly, I'll say safe and dull.
lol me too!

kelley
05-18-2012, 05:57 PM
Definitely safe and dull. I would have maybe sometimes gone adventurous before children, but now I'm always going to play on the safe side. Like I'm deathly afraid of planes now, but before i had kids it was no biggie. I figured if I died, nobody would be left without someone to care for them. Now, I wouldn't get on a plane unless it was life or death. That may change once the kids are grown and gone, but I doubt it. I am perfectly happy right where I am :)

StarWarsFans
05-18-2012, 07:22 PM
I have a perfect example of this. When we adopted our son from Korea, we had the option of having him escorted to the United States or picking him up in Korea. I get motion sickness and the thought of being on an airplane that long with a child that didn't know me was absolutely terrifying. So we chose to have him escorted. But everytime I see pictures of my friends who flew to Korea, I wish I had gone for it. They have these amazing photos and say what an awesome experience it is to meet their child's foster family, see where they were born, etc.

So, when we decided to adopt again, I thought, "We should do it! We should go to Korea!" But this time I had the same fears, plus the fear of having to either take Kaden with us and dealing with a toddler on the plane AND a baby, or having to leave him behind with my family and the thought of him missing out. Long story short, I talked myself out of it again and we had her escorted too.

I need to get over myself. Seriously.

JillW
05-18-2012, 11:48 PM
Oh Tricia ... please don't feel bad - you did what you had to do - end of story! That's water under the bridge - focus on your beautiful children! :) Okay, stepping off of my soap box.

I would say I'd go with dull and safe too - but I think it is because of my age. Being 51 ... I'm set in my ways - I like things to stay boring and dull ... I'm too old for too much adventure! :( hehe

missdamsel
05-18-2012, 11:59 PM
I agree with Barb, it depenmds on the situation. I woud love to do adventurous things, but safe and dull when it comes to food.

Sarah
05-19-2012, 12:37 AM
Safe and dull, but only because I have kids, LOL

So this!

Ambelleina
05-19-2012, 01:46 AM
I'm 25, unmarried and have no kids, but that just makes the decision harder since I have nothing pulling me to one side or the other. The decision is only for myself, although it would affect others people directly.

Safe is great, comfortable, steady...but boring. And sometimes disappointing.

Adventurous is also great, exciting, spontaneous...but confusing. And completely unknown.

LE SIGH.

photom
05-19-2012, 01:49 AM
Adventurous is also great, exciting, spontaneous...but confusing. And completely unknown.


Whatever it is, go for it! We all have had to match adventurous decisions. Hence why I'm married AND have kids, lol! You're only young once. Obviously, we don't want you going and doing something stupid that would hurt others, but besides that~ go have fun! (I hope that's what you were hoping to hear!)

chigirl
05-19-2012, 02:07 AM
definately safe and dull, i dont' have an adventurous bone in my body...

Terra
05-19-2012, 02:37 AM
It totally depends on the topic. There are times where safe is best... others where the unknown is best.... But even "safe" is rarely dull for me :D Life is the adventure you make it.

zeee
05-19-2012, 02:59 AM
I'd go for adventurous yet unknown... That's how i got to try new things... Aaaaaaand how I met hubby! LOL

nutsaboutgabe
05-19-2012, 03:28 AM
I would like to add when I was younger, not that I think I am old now at 34, I would have definitely said adventurous and unknown. I did make several choices where the outcome was clearly unknown. I worry too much now. Having a child will clearly alter your choices.

msbrad
05-19-2012, 03:35 AM
safe, yet dull...

sorry- maybe, because I'm older than most [or all y'all] here. I do not like surprises. I do not like to be scared out of my wits. Along that line...I do not like roller coasters either.
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Sniksnak
05-19-2012, 11:39 AM
Watching tv or reading books I always think to myself that I could do adventurous and unknown but if someone came up to me and asked if I would go on an adventure I would most likely choose safe yet dull and say no.

Then again if the choice was given in the situation (not beforehand) then I would be crazy scared and then decide to at least give the unknown a chance. For instance I suffer from fear of hights and would say no if someone asked me if I would go sky diving. But if for some reason I was given a gift card for a skydiving session then I would be terribly scared but not at all unwilling to consider doing it. Actually I would hate myself for not doing it so I would at least go up in the plane and see others do skydiving.

Did that make sense?

nutsaboutgabe
05-19-2012, 01:39 PM
Sanne - it makes sense but your post made me laugh...especially the part about the gift card!


Watching tv or reading books I always think to myself that I could do adventurous and unknown but if someone came up to me and asked if I would go on an adventure I would most likely choose safe yet dull and say no.

Then again if the choice was given in the situation (not beforehand) then I would be crazy scared and then decide to at least give the unknown a chance. For instance I suffer from fear of hights and would say no if someone asked me if I would go sky diving. But if for some reason I was given a gift card for a skydiving session then I would be terribly scared but not at all unwilling to consider doing it. Actually I would hate myself for not doing it so I would at least go up in the plane and see others do skydiving.

Did that make sense?

Tree City
05-19-2012, 03:20 PM
When DD was about 2yo, DH had an opportunity to do his post doc in France. FRANCE! I was like "Heck yeah! How many people get the chance to move to France for 4 years?! We can go wine tasting, shopping, eat at cool restaurants, visit the Louvre, and Genevieve can go to preschool in France. And learn FRENCH! We can take the train to other countries!" But DH was like "Where will we live? We don't speak French. We don't know anyone. It's expensive. Neither of us will have a car. French people are rude to Americans" [sorry if anyone here is French, but that's the American stereotype: we think all French people hate us. lol!] I said "But we'll meet people/learn the language/take taxis!" DH is a total control freak rotfl and definitely plays it safe and dull. So he and I are good for each other: I pull him out of his shell and he stops me from doing crazy things. :) I still think "What if?" sometimes. What if we'd moved there? I had to move away from my parents when DH started grad school.
If you're far enough away that your family can't just pop over for dinner, then to me it doesn't matter where in the world (literally) you are. The friends you meet become your family. We're in TX and we might as well be in France: neither place is where we grew up, so why not take the more exotic route? But having said that, I loooove where we are in TX, and now that we have DS, I am glad we're not in France cuz I'm pretty sure I wouldn't have wanted to be pregnant in another country.