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nutsaboutgabe
04-25-2012, 03:28 PM
I figured I'd start this thread to get a little stress off of my shoulders and hopefully your shoulders too. I know when I'm stressed I feel better just talking about it.

We (my husband and I) are currently trying to get approval for a mortgage. The problem is that our house in KY was sold as a short sale and that's making getting an approval much harder than expected. We put our house up for sale October 2008 and it didn't sell until February 2011. We struggled a lot during that time and had to make some hard decisions, but we were thankful when it finally sold. We've been back in CT since May 2009 and have been living in an apartment, but with Gabe starting Kindergarten in the fall we want get settled into a house as soon as we can.

What's stressing you?

prettyingreen
04-25-2012, 03:44 PM
ah our "new" car we just got last spring is a POS! and he took a small 401k loan for it, so long story short he cant sell it for what we owe and we cant get another loan unless we pay that first. so if it totally takes a crap on us we're down to one car again and its the gas guzzlin truck and then im stuck at home when he's at work :(

but really my stess right now lol is getting everything done for NSD LOL :)

MnMommy2
04-25-2012, 03:46 PM
I overstress all the time about little things, I've got nothing going on compared to what you have. ;)

Mostly end of the school year stressors for me. I am active in scouting, we have graduation in mid may and then a big weekend camping trip with the Wolf Den. I'm a PTA member/fundraising co-chair and we've got a big Walkathon Fundraiser coming up that I hope goes smoothly, then end of school picnic that actually our Cub Scout pack does the food for but our PTA sponsors. Trying to find volunteers for those kinds of things is always like pulling teeth. lol.

Hubby is really stressing, he only has about 10 more days of his teaching left for this school year (first year college instructor) and this last quarter has had him working for 12 hours non stop a day basically with no break, so his sanity level is just not there and that makes it tough at home since he is exhausted and crabby.

MnMommy2
04-25-2012, 03:48 PM
actually the only direct stress I am dreading is going on a field trip with 32 preschoolers at the end of May to Como Zoo in the cities, about 1.5 hours one way or more depending on traffic. Being in a school bus for that long really scares me as I get car sick. ;)

nutsaboutgabe
04-25-2012, 03:51 PM
That is a crappy situation to be in. I always hesitate to buy used because I feel like there is a big chance of being scammed. I hope you guys can keep it running for a while longer.


ah our "new" car we just got last spring is a POS! and he took a small 401k loan for it, so long story short he cant sell it for what we owe and we cant get another loan unless we pay that first. so if it totally takes a crap on us we're down to one car again and its the gas guzzlin truck and then im stuck at home when he's at work :(

but really my stess right now lol is getting everything done for NSD LOL :)

Ambelleina
04-25-2012, 04:21 PM
I'm stressing in general because I just feel like there's never enough hours in the day to get everything I need to do done.

Between working full-time, family obligations, doing all the grocery shopping/cooking/cleaning, then my scrap duties, it just seems like the days are flying by--and that stresses me out.

I'm starting to go to bed after midnight now just to get everything done, then i wake up before 7 for work and I'm exhausted all day. I miss my time to just watch a movie or play video games or just do nothing.

Example: Sunday night went to bed at 1230am, work up Monday 650am, at work by 745am, work til 430pm, stop by grocery store, home at 610pm, out the door to do laundry at 630pm, back home at 830pm, family comes over for help with something--leaves at 915pm, start dinner at 9pm, finish at 945pm, serve dinner to the boyfriend, jump in shower, sitting down to dinner at 1030pm, done eating and starting ad team/qa team/scrap challenge stuff by 11pm, back in bed at midnight.

PHEW.

AND I still need to find time to start working out again--but where will that fit?!

I'm really glad I don't have any kids; I'd lose my damn mind if I had to do everything I do then add a child in the mix. Just reliving my Monday has me stressed out again! :(

Lisa
04-25-2012, 04:28 PM
I've recently applied for two promotion positions at work so I'm waiting to hear if I will be allowed to try for one or both. And if I get the chance that means tests (easy peasy) and interviews (ewww!) and more hours (yay, money $, but boo, more hours) :rolleyes:

nutsaboutgabe
04-25-2012, 05:10 PM
I stress about so much...and it's a lot little things. Another major stress that's not so little right now it WORK! My department will eventually be going away and now my boss' boss wants updated resumes. Uh...it's not updated. I've been doing this job for 11 years and I feel like I have no skills.



I overstress all the time about little things, I've got nothing going on compared to what you have. ;)

Mostly end of the school year stressors for me. I am active in scouting, we have graduation in mid may and then a big weekend camping trip with the Wolf Den. I'm a PTA member/fundraising co-chair and we've got a big Walkathon Fundraiser coming up that I hope goes smoothly, then end of school picnic that actually our Cub Scout pack does the food for but our PTA sponsors. Trying to find volunteers for those kinds of things is always like pulling teeth. lol.

Hubby is really stressing, he only has about 10 more days of his teaching left for this school year (first year college instructor) and this last quarter has had him working for 12 hours non stop a day basically with no break, so his sanity level is just not there and that makes it tough at home since he is exhausted and crabby.

nutsaboutgabe
04-25-2012, 05:11 PM
Good luck with the promotions.


I've recently applied for two promotion positions at work so I'm waiting to hear if I will be allowed to try for one or both. And if I get the chance that means tests (easy peasy) and interviews (ewww!) and more hours (yay, money $, but boo, more hours) :rolleyes:

nutsaboutgabe
04-25-2012, 05:14 PM
I was going to say, don't have a child anytime soon. They suck up so much time, but really they are worth every second of it. I just don't know how to manage having another one. The cost of child care sucks and not working is not an option for me.


I'm stressing in general because I just feel like there's never enough hours in the day to get everything I need to do done.

Between working full-time, family obligations, doing all the grocery shopping/cooking/cleaning, then my scrap duties, it just seems like the days are flying by--and that stresses me out.

I'm starting to go to bed after midnight now just to get everything done, then i wake up before 7 for work and I'm exhausted all day. I miss my time to just watch a movie or play video games or just do nothing.

Example: Sunday night went to bed at 1230am, work up Monday 650am, at work by 745am, work til 430pm, stop by grocery store, home at 610pm, out the door to do laundry at 630pm, back home at 830pm, family comes over for help with something--leaves at 915pm, start dinner at 9pm, finish at 945pm, serve dinner to the boyfriend, jump in shower, sitting down to dinner at 1030pm, done eating and starting ad team/qa team/scrap challenge stuff by 11pm, back in bed at midnight.

PHEW.

AND I still need to find time to start working out again--but where will that fit?!

I'm really glad I don't have any kids; I'd lose my damn mind if I had to do everything I do then add a child in the mix. Just reliving my Monday has me stressed out again! :(

MSPeeler
04-25-2012, 05:25 PM
Housework always stresses me... because it's NEVER finished.... ever. And I despise it.

Ambelleina
04-25-2012, 05:36 PM
I was going to say, don't have a child anytime soon. They suck up so much time, but really they are worth every second of it. I just don't know how to manage having another one. The cost of child care sucks and not working is not an option for me.

I mean, I could have a child with the time concern because I would just drop scrapping and start forcing the boyfriend to HELP (lol), but I'd HAVE to continue to work. If I stayed home, I wouldn't have to pay for child care, but the student loan companies do not give a crud if I have a kid. They want their money and being a SAHM isn't an option when I have $30k in student loan debt.

I guess I could just say I was unemployed and defer the payments, but the interest still racks up and I just don't want that hanging over my head.

I don't know what I'll do if I ever get married and decide to have a child. The thought of it is stressing me out MORE!

StarWarsFans
04-25-2012, 06:29 PM
I think the better question for me today is, "What's NOT stressing me?"

It's a crazy two weeks. I've got 3 parties to plan & make goodies for, a camping trip, a scrapbook to finish, my sister is having a baby, two graduations to attend, a painting project that really needs to be finished up, and DH is starting physical therapy and will need a ride to and fro. Add all that to the normal laundry, dishes, kids' activities, etc., and I'm ready to go on a nice long vacation!

sladd79054
04-25-2012, 06:32 PM
We have in home behavior counseling starting today for my youngest son who has apraxia of speech. Plus getting him to all of his other appts. and I am planning a birthday party for him and we are inviting his class to our house but hopefully the sun will shine so it can be outside. It is also time for my son's yearly medical review for his secondary medical insurance and if we lose that then he won't be able to get any extra care because our primary doesn't cover anything to do with occupational therapy, speech therapy or anything. This in home counseling is going to take up 10 hours a week for probably 6 months which is a lot of time on top of everything else. Plus my oldest just started baseball which is games on Saturdays and practice twice a week and Alex starts tball on Saturday which means he has games on Saturdays as well as practice one night a week.

So I have a huge headache that isn't going to go away anytime soon.

missdamsel
04-25-2012, 06:36 PM
Oh, honey, where do I start???

For the first time in 24 years, my husband hates his job! Yes the new job in TN. He hates his job SO much that DAILY I never know if he will come home to tell me he turned in his notice! I will support 100% whatever he decides and KNOW he will make the best choice for us, but talk about scarry!!

nutsaboutgabe
04-25-2012, 06:42 PM
Those student loans will follow you everywhere. I'm 34 and still owe 20K. I pay $350 every month. It's so depressing!! My husband always says to me..."how much did you borrow again?". I could make more time for myself if I stopped scrapping, but then I'd be really depressed because scrapping gives me a little bit of time to do something that I really like to do.


I mean, I could have a child with the time concern because I would just drop scrapping and start forcing the boyfriend to HELP (lol), but I'd HAVE to continue to work. If I stayed home, I wouldn't have to pay for child care, but the student loan companies do not give a crud if I have a kid. They want their money and being a SAHM isn't an option when I have $30k in student loan debt.

I guess I could just say I was unemployed and defer the payments, but the interest still racks up and I just don't want that hanging over my head.

I don't know what I'll do if I ever get married and decide to have a child. The thought of it is stressing me out MORE!

Luv Ewe Designs
04-25-2012, 06:54 PM
Work is stressing me! I only had 1001 things to do this morning when I got there. I threatened to lock my office door so I can get it done. I got the worst part of it done now and finally can breathe! LOL I hate the later parts of the month with the duties I have. Too many deadlines!

lauramarie
04-25-2012, 06:55 PM
Well I was trying not to stress so much anymore but last night as I went upstairs to go to bed, I turned on the light in my bedroom and on the wall was a huge bug, a water bug! I almost fainted. I detest bugs, any bugs but when its a large bug in your room that was not there an hour ago, it makes you wonder where the hell it was hiding! So now I feel like I have to check every nook and cranny for bugs because I cannot live with them inside my house!! Oh gosh, I was almost crying about it. I have no idea how I would kill one if I was alone..I couldn't do it!

And now I am stressed about taking my son for his annual check up - trying to get him to get some speech therapy and deciding whether to give him more vaccinations.

nutsaboutgabe
04-25-2012, 07:03 PM
Oh my gosh! I'd freak out about the bug too.

It seems a few of us have children with speech therapy needs.

I'm trying to get my son speech therapy too. He had an autism eval done back in January and he did not fall on the spectrum at all according to the evaluator, but she suggested speech therapy. I had been trying to get speech therapy for him for 2 years and now I finally get someone to say she thinks it would be good for him and my insurance may not cover it at all. It will be bad enough if they do cover it because I will still need to pay $40 per session, but if he had therapy when I originally requested it, it would have been covered 100%. Go figure.


Well I was trying not to stress so much anymore but last night as I went upstairs to go to bed, I turned on the light in my bedroom and on the wall was a huge bug, a water bug! I almost fainted. I detest bugs, any bugs but when its a large bug in your room that was not there an hour ago, it makes you wonder where the hell it was hiding! So now I feel like I have to check every nook and cranny for bugs because I cannot live with them inside my house!! Oh gosh, I was almost crying about it. I have no idea how I would kill one if I was alone..I couldn't do it!

And now I am stressed about taking my son for his annual check up - trying to get him to get some speech therapy and deciding whether to give him more vaccinations.

lauramarie
04-25-2012, 07:18 PM
His speech is getting better but some of the words he cannot pronounce. I am not sure what the issue is but my thought is if I can get him help in that area so its not an issue when he starts school, I should. The kids area already saying things to him when we go to his karate class and the playground. It breaks my heart to hear them say " I don't understand what he is saying" or they tell him he is not talking right. I understand him 100% but to others, its more like 70%.

nutsaboutgabe
04-25-2012, 07:21 PM
The end of the month is the worst. It can be so stressful.


Work is stressing me! I only had 1001 things to do this morning when I got there. I threatened to lock my office door so I can get it done. I got the worst part of it done now and finally can breathe! LOL I hate the later parts of the month with the duties I have. Too many deadlines!

nutsaboutgabe
04-25-2012, 07:53 PM
It sounds like you are describing my son to me :-(


His speech is getting better but some of the words he cannot pronounce. I am not sure what the issue is but my thought is if I can get him help in that area so its not an issue when he starts school, I should. The kids area already saying things to him when we go to his karate class and the playground. It breaks my heart to hear them say " I don't understand what he is saying" or they tell him he is not talking right. I understand him 100% but to others, its more like 70%.

StarWarsFans
04-25-2012, 08:04 PM
That sounds like my daughter too. She gets so frustrated when her teachers and fellow Pre-K classmates don't understand her. Even I can't understand her all the time. She's been doing speech therapy for a year now and is getting much better. I'm hopeful that by the end of next year, she will be speaking clearly and ready to start kindergarten without having to continue speech.

Psychozoe
04-25-2012, 10:03 PM
Thanx for starting this thread, Barb. It's nice to share. (even the hard things)

In the last 2 years, my husband:

started school full-time (online)

got a promotion at work

had to move 2.5 hours away from home for work; he lives in our camp trailer near his job, and only comes home 1 or 2 days a week.

In the meantime, my eldest son started high school and all of the sudden thought he could do anything he wanted to...

and now he is old enough for his learners permit! ugh! (not to mention he is athletic and really handsome.. and a huge flirt!) all the girls love him and it's going to his head. He even was dating a senior for a couple months! he's only 15?!!

Needless to say, it's been a tough transition because basically I'm a single parent on a day-to day basis. But we're getting to the point where we have a routine and it's not really that terrible.

It is stressing , though, when I need a man around to keep the boys in line. Dads seem to be much better at that.

Ladies, I've been through the hard years with young children, and my youngest son was in speech therapy, occupational therapy, special education classes, I"ve had to hold him back a couple times in his school career. He is in 6th grade right now, and he's 14. It's kinda hard for him right now socially because he has started puberty and he has a deep voice, acne, and facial hair.. he's the tallest boy in his class.. but I tell him look at it this way - you'll have your drivers license before anyone else in your class! all the girls love a guy who drives!

but I wouldn't change a thing. He needed the extra time to learn more before he moved on to the next grades. He'll always be socially slower than kids his age. He needs extra instruction, guidance, and explanations for everyday life situiations. I worry for him as an adult.. but we take it one day at a time.

I worry for my boys.. I hope they can get a good education so they can provide for their families, and I hope they are happy in life.

(I worry too much)

scrappydoo82
04-25-2012, 10:26 PM
Needless to say, it's been a tough transition because basically I'm a single parent on a day-to day basis. But we're getting to the point where we have a routine and it's not really that terrible.

It is stressing , though, when I need a man around to keep the boys in line. Dads seem to be much better at that.


I can definitely relate how you feel! When my husband works out of town it's normally Mon-Fri and he does this alot throughout the year. I always feel like I am a single mom trying to figure out this stuff when sometimes I know I need his help. A Routine has saved my sanity for some many things!

nutsaboutgabe
04-25-2012, 10:43 PM
Susie - thanks for posting your stresses! It's hard enough being a parent when you have a co-captain, but I don't envy those who are single parents. My mom was a single mom of 3 for 8 years and I often wonder how she did it. I ask her and she just says she did what she had to do. I love her so much for doing everything she did to make sure she gave us the best she could.

...and I know I stress too much. I worry about everything. I worry about worrying!

(I worry too much)

GingerScraps
04-25-2012, 10:58 PM
I'm so stressed I'm about to cry!!!! I have spent the last 3 days moving furniture so I could move my computer into my room.
Once I got everything moved, my computer won't pick up my router. So we got a new router, thank god my brother paid for it! He got one that was almost $300!
I got it home.... And my computer won't pick that up either. I spent about 12 hours trying every configuration possible, and the conclusion is... I have to move everything back. Put my computer back in the middle of the living room.
I wasted 3 days and I'm so behind on everything!!!
Cry.... Sob... Boohoo

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nutsaboutgabe
04-25-2012, 11:04 PM
Oh Ginger that really sucks. It doesn't make any sense that your computer won't pick up the router when it's in your room. THey have good range! You don't live in a steel box, do you?

Oh and I always think crying doesn't fix anything, but it sure makes you feel better for a bit.


I'm so stressed I'm about to cry!!!! I have spent the last 3 days moving furniture so I could move my computer into my room.
Once I got everything moved, my computer won't pick up my router. So we got a new router, thank god my brother paid for it! He got one that was almost $300!
I got it home.... And my computer won't pick that up either. I spent about 12 hours trying every configuration possible, and the conclusion is... I have to move everything back. Put my computer back in the middle of the living room.
I wasted 3 days and I'm so behind on everything!!!
Cry.... Sob... Boohoo

Sent from my ADR6300 using Tapatalk 2

MnMommy2
04-25-2012, 11:44 PM
and I am nervous about possibly being a PCA for the preschooler for special needs that i work with at a school right now for. The mom hinted to the SPED Teacher that she wants to hire me to do some PCA work in the morning before her child goes to school since we've made great progress since I started working with the child. I've only worked and known the student for 3 months but we work well together, he likes me and I've seen enormous progress in his way of doing things and attitude, guess I should feel honored that she wants to hire me for PCA work, I have had training, I still need to get certified though with state of MN and should be associated with an agency. Great news, but yet, I'm stressing if I will do well....

Ambelleina
04-26-2012, 12:05 AM
To the ladies with the children with speech issues: I'm sure they will get better.

When my nephew first started talking until he was maybe 7/8ish, no one could understand him. Not me, not his parents, not anyone. All his words seemed not only lisp-y, but jumbled and choppy. He also had a VERY bad stutter. He ended up going to a speech pathologist for sessions several times a week and after a few years, he was fine. It was a struggle when he was in school during those years, but now he is about to turn 12 and he sounds perfectly fine.

Just give them love and patience and with proper care, they will overcome! :)

nutsaboutgabe
04-26-2012, 12:39 AM
Thanks for the note of encouragement Christina. I have heard similar stories.

I totally think my son will be fine given enough time, but it's frustrating to hear from the teachers (preschool) that they can't understand him sometimes, especially when he is being shy. However, he has improved dramatically and I'm happy to report it's not his vocabulary the speech therapist wants to work on, but rather the annunciation of certain letters. It's odd because it's almost a habit of how he says some words.

He says "mama", but says "nem" and "nem" for M&M's for example. They are the same sounds so he can say it, but doesn't. Two of my favorite words that he says incorrectly are duplicate and favorites. They sound like poop-a-kit and say-bits. So cute now, but maybe not later.

If he can't get speech before K...I'm sure he will be eligible for something once he's in school.


To the ladies with the children with speech issues: I'm sure they will get better.

When my nephew first started talking until he was maybe 7/8ish, no one could understand him. Not me, not his parents, not anyone. All his words seemed not only lisp-y, but jumbled and choppy. He also had a VERY bad stutter. He ended up going to a speech pathologist for sessions several times a week and after a few years, he was fine. It was a struggle when he was in school during those years, but now he is about to turn 12 and he sounds perfectly fine.

Just give them love and patience and with proper care, they will overcome! :)

kl.winters
04-26-2012, 12:48 AM
Oh, honey, where do I start???

For the first time in 24 years, my husband hates his job! Yes the new job in TN. He hates his job SO much that DAILY I never know if he will come home to tell me he turned in his notice! I will support 100% whatever he decides and KNOW he will make the best choice for us, but talk about scarry!!

Been there, Missi! I spent almost 2 years watching my hubby hate his job and we were self-employed at the time, which just added more stress to the situation. Everyday, I wondered if this would be the day that he finally snapped, and gave it up. No matter how hard I tried, I couldn't get him to look past the things that were bothering him and just go with the flow, do what you have to do and let it go once you get home but he couldn't do it, he finally snapped, and everything came to a screeching halt. Despite the stress of his decision, and the struggle that followed, it was for the best because he's much happier now.

nutsaboutgabe
04-26-2012, 01:05 AM
An income is definitely important, but if it makes your life absolutely miserable something has got to give. I can't imagine disliking my job that much. I like doing what I do most days, but it's the office politics I can do without. I'm glad your DH is doing well now Kathy.



Been there, Missi! I spent almost 2 years watching my hubby hate his job and we were self-employed at the time, which just added more stress to the situation. Everyday, I wondered if this would be the day that he finally snapped, and gave it up. No matter how hard I tried, I couldn't get him to look past the things that were bothering him and just go with the flow, do what you have to do and let it go once you get home but he couldn't do it, he finally snapped, and everything came to a screeching halt. Despite the stress of his decision, and the struggle that followed, it was for the best because he's much happier now.

rdjrneace
04-26-2012, 01:20 AM
Mine is not so much stress as aggravation with myself. I want to loose weight and try but quit after a few weeks. What does it take to make me stick with something?

nutsaboutgabe
04-26-2012, 01:26 AM
Ugh...you had to bring up weight. That's another stress factor.


Mine is not so much stress as aggravation with myself. I want to loose weight and try but quit after a few weeks. What does it take to make me stick with something?

StarWarsFans
04-26-2012, 02:07 AM
DH had a job he hated and it was really hard on our marriage. After a lot of prayer, an unexpected job offer came along that was perfect. He loved it and would still be at it if the boss hadn't retired and downsized the farm. So I will pray that everything works out for you guys Missi!

I am stressing a bit over swimsuit season too. I was on a medication for 6 months that I thought would cause me to gain weight, but it didn't. When I went off of it, however, then BAM! I have gained 10 pounds already and it's all in a spare tire around my middle. Ugh!

MnMommy2
04-26-2012, 02:18 AM
My son with Autism didn't really 'talk' until he went to Kindergarten at an elementary school. He was in a special needs early childhood program at a Preschool for 2 years and really didn't say much to his teachers and therapists and they were interacting with him one on one several times a day. He got to Kindergarten and had a lot more kids in his class and knew he had to use his words if he was going to really enjoy his class. Now he won't stop talking. He is in 5th grade and does still go to Speech class in school as he has difficulty with "TH" and some other sounds. He has come a long way and I really didn't think the words would come, be patient, work with your child reading and emphasizing words the correct way, correct him when he says something wrong. May I suggest the Sequence for Kids (http://www.amazon.com/Jax-8001-Sequence-for-Kids/dp/B00005UM9P) board game? We use it in the preschool class I work in and it is really a great game! Another tool we use is the internet site Starfall.com it has a lot of games and videos where you simply click on an object and the computer repeats the sounds of the words.

nutsaboutgabe
04-26-2012, 03:03 PM
I will definitely get the Sequence for Kids game. We love games and play them often. My son also loves books and we read, at minimum, three a night before bed. He really doesn't want me to read to him other than before bed, but he will "read" books by himself any time of the day. Going to the bookstore is a regular trip and he loves Scholastic Book order forms!! I knew about Starfall.com, but unfortunately it doesn't hold his interest and it's simply because there are no "characters" there that he wants to hang out with like Team Umizoomi, Dora, etc...


My son with Autism didn't really 'talk' until he went to Kindergarten at an elementary school. He was in a special needs early childhood program at a Preschool for 2 years and really didn't say much to his teachers and therapists and they were interacting with him one on one several times a day. He got to Kindergarten and had a lot more kids in his class and knew he had to use his words if he was going to really enjoy his class. Now he won't stop talking. He is in 5th grade and does still go to Speech class in school as he has difficulty with "TH" and some other sounds. He has come a long way and I really didn't think the words would come, be patient, work with your child reading and emphasizing words the correct way, correct him when he says something wrong. May I suggest the Sequence for Kids (http://www.amazon.com/Jax-8001-Sequence-for-Kids/dp/B00005UM9P) board game? We use it in the preschool class I work in and it is really a great game! Another tool we use is the internet site Starfall.com it has a lot of games and videos where you simply click on an object and the computer repeats the sounds of the words.

Tree City
04-26-2012, 03:46 PM
Sorry about the mortgage situation, Barb!

I'm praying fir everyone who's posted here.

I'm stressed about my ILs' visit. They fly in tomorrow to meet DS and basically drive me crazy. And that's all I'll say about that. :36_1_3:

nutsaboutgabe
04-26-2012, 03:57 PM
Oh Sara I hope your visit goes smoothly.


Sorry about the mortgage situation, Barb!

I'm praying fir everyone who's posted here.

I'm stressed about my ILs' visit. They fly in tomorrow to meet DS and basically drive me crazy. And that's all I'll say about that. :36_1_3:

Sarah
04-26-2012, 05:04 PM
My stress? My husband's job. Seems Congress has UPS and Fedex so deep in their pockets, they're willing to screw over the whole country for them ;)

That, and normal money issues. First car payment comes out, and because Josh was sick, we lost nearly a full day's worth of overtime, which is about $300. :(

nutsaboutgabe
04-26-2012, 05:17 PM
That's rough Sarah. Money is such a stress factor for so many people and it doesn't look like it's going to get better any time soon. Our economic situation is so sad right now.

Ambelleina
04-26-2012, 05:19 PM
DH had a job he hated and it was really hard on our marriage. After a lot of prayer, an unexpected job offer came along that was perfect. He loved it and would still be at it if the boss hadn't retired and downsized the farm. So I will pray that everything works out for you guys Missi!

I am stressing a bit over swimsuit season too. I was on a medication for 6 months that I thought would cause me to gain weight, but it didn't. When I went off of it, however, then BAM! I have gained 10 pounds already and it's all in a spare tire around my middle. Ugh!

I am EXTREMELY glad the boyfriend recently started a new job. When our company laid off 700 people in 2009, he was one of the unlucky ones. He ended up working in a grocery store for minimum wage for almost a year after spending a year on unemployment and working random temp jobs. The year he was working steadily as the grocery store was HELL. They treated him so terribly and the hours were so crazy, it almost ripped us apart. He would come home is THE worst moods, irritated, gripey and just being a jerk...all because that dang job. Not only were they mistreating the employees, they paid them next to nothing, then cut their hours only to ask them to stay late all the time. WHAT?! I will never shop at Kroger again now that I know how poorly they treat their employees.

A really bad job can destroy lives and relationships. We were on the brink of destruction because of the stress that job put on him. The he would come home and take it out on me, which was hard for me to handle after a while. I am SO GLAD I found his new job randomly thrown on Craigslist. He works steady normal daytime hours now for a substantial amount more (from minimum wage/scraping by to excess money!), way closer to home and since it's a small business, everyone knows each other and is courteous.

That's ONE giant stressor I have escaped as of just a couple of months ago. Our relationship is SO much better now--it's amazing.

Now if only I could look good in a swimsuit... hehe

StarWarsFans
04-26-2012, 06:11 PM
I am EXTREMELY glad the boyfriend recently started a new job. When our company laid off 700 people in 2009, he was one of the unlucky ones. He ended up working in a grocery store for minimum wage for almost a year after spending a year on unemployment and working random temp jobs. The year he was working steadily as the grocery store was HELL. They treated him so terribly and the hours were so crazy, it almost ripped us apart. He would come home is THE worst moods, irritated, gripey and just being a jerk...all because that dang job. Not only were they mistreating the employees, they paid them next to nothing, then cut their hours only to ask them to stay late all the time. WHAT?! I will never shop at Kroger again now that I know how poorly they treat their employees.

A really bad job can destroy lives and relationships. We were on the brink of destruction because of the stress that job put on him. The he would come home and take it out on me, which was hard for me to handle after a while. I am SO GLAD I found his new job randomly thrown on Craigslist. He works steady normal daytime hours now for a substantial amount more (from minimum wage/scraping by to excess money!), way closer to home and since it's a small business, everyone knows each other and is courteous.

That's ONE giant stressor I have escaped as of just a couple of months ago. Our relationship is SO much better now--it's amazing.

Now if only I could look good in a swimsuit... hehe

That's EXACTLY how it was with DH's old job. He was overworked, underpaid, and even asked to compromise his integrity and overcharge customers which he refused to do. He was in a bad mood all the time and work was all he could think and talk about.

As far as the swimsuit goes, I don't really care how I look in it. I just don't want to have to buy a new one. I have a whole wardrobe I love and am frustrated because it's all too small now. I don't have the money for new clothes so I need to make these 10 pounds go away!

kl.winters
04-27-2012, 09:37 PM
Seems like everyone's number one stress is financial worries these days. I can tell you from experience that when it starts to effect your relationship make sure you talk about it and share your feelings with each other. I found out the hard way that it had been effecting my hubby more than I ever realized because he kept it to himself. Some of you know this because I have shared in the past but my hubby was to proud to admit that he was feeling like a failure when our business folded and one day he snapped and attempted suicide by ingesting antifreeze. I had know idea what he had done until 6 or 7 hours later when he started exhibiting signs of a stroke. It wasn't until I called 911 and we got him into the ER that I learned that he might have done something to hurt himself. I was in total shock because this was not like my hubby at all and he came very close to passing away that night but somehow by the grace of God, he survived the horrible ordeal.

He spent 16 days in the hospital but he only really remembers the last 4 or 5 days because he was in pretty bad shape, which is just as well. His kidney's shut down and he went into respiratory failure so he required daily dialysis treatments and was on a ventilator for several days. Once they backed off on the sedative so they could take him off of the ventilator, it took him 2 days to respond and make eye contact again. That was the worst because we didn't know if he was going to make it back but he did and somehow we survived the ordeal. It's been almost 3 years now and through counseling he's learned how to cope better but he's still fighting the depression and anxiety that grips him and won't let go. He was fortunate that after a couple of months his kidneys started to function again on their own so he no longer needed dialysis treatments but he did permanent damage that requires monitoring a couple of times a year because as he gets older, his function could diminish and require dialysis again but we'll deal with that when the time comes.

In some ways, it was a blessing in disguise because we learned some valuable lessons from the experience and our relationship is stronger than ever because of what we went through. We still struggle financially because my hubby has been on disability but we've learned to adapt and cope with things better and we now know what is truly important in life and it's not material things.

GingerScraps
04-27-2012, 09:50 PM
Kathy you and an inspiration! You stuck with him and that is a testament to who you are. He is blessed to have such a loving and devoted wife. <3 <3 <3

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Psychozoe
04-27-2012, 10:32 PM
Now if only I could look good in a swimsuit... hehe



Christina, do you remember the movie, "Eat, Pray Love" with Julia Roberts? remember the part where her friend was worrying about eating pizza because she was gaining weight? I love what Julia said and it's so true...

“Let me ask you something, in all the years that you have...undressed in front of a gentleman has he ever asked you to leave? Has he ever walked out and left? No? It's because he doesn't care! He's in a room with a naked girl, he just won the lottery."

Psychozoe
04-27-2012, 10:34 PM
Kathy, thank you for sharing that. Ginger's right.. he's very lucky he has you.

nutsaboutgabe
04-27-2012, 11:38 PM
I agree. He is extremely lucky to have you. Many people would have just left. Thanks for sharing Kathy.


Kathy, thank you for sharing that. Ginger's right.. he's very lucky he has you.

kl.winters
04-28-2012, 01:41 AM
Awe, thanks girls! My hubby has always been one to show how much he appreciates every little thing I do for him and he's always been my biggest cheerleader so I couldn't just turn my back on him. He would do anything for me so I was just returning the favor. We've always been of the mindset that we are in this life together so no matter what happens, we face it together. His biggest fault is that he puts other people's needs above his own.

carladee
04-29-2012, 11:24 AM
I stress about my job, I don't like it anymore but on my age you don't find a new one nowadays:(

nutsaboutgabe
04-29-2012, 12:50 PM
I've heard that many times before from several of the ladies who work in the same suite I do. That makes for long day at work.


I stress about my job, I don't like it anymore but on my age you don't find a new one nowadays:(

carladee
04-29-2012, 01:11 PM
Yes it is, there are acouple of collegues I love very much that makes things a bit better.......

extase
04-29-2012, 02:06 PM
My son, 10 years old in next september is stressing me a lot ... every time we say "no" or ask for something, he enters in a total opposition with us... Stressing !!!!

carolat
04-29-2012, 02:34 PM
Normally, I would say it is my 2 boys (one turning 8 and the other turning 10), but actually they are my stress RELIEVERS right now! All of my stress comes directly from my 30 yr old BIL and his 2 cats - living with us - no job - not helping out any - no concrete plans to leave.

We agreed to help him out until he got his masters degree, but that time has come and gone (December) and there is no light at the end of the tunnel!

MnMommy2
04-29-2012, 09:01 PM
I posted my newest stressor on the NBSR board. Teachers are quite concerned about my 7 yr olds lack of talking in school. He has always been shy but I guess he hasn't actually talked in school for some time now. Teacher contacted me on Friday because she saw me at the school. Testing and observations are going to be started.

kelley
04-30-2012, 04:16 AM
Money is stressing me out. We have so many things we still need/want to do with the new house, and the money is just running out. Now it is time where we have to start taking part of our paychecks out to do it, which is difficult because that cuts into other things. Nothing really to complain about because we just feel so blessed to have been able to already do what we've done so far, but still, it is stressful. I find myself wanting to work more, more, more to up the check, and then that cuts into time for other things.

extase
04-30-2012, 08:18 AM
Woww Carolat, in fact i know a movie named "Tanguy" in franch who told the story of a old young man leaving at his parent's home with no participation...
Good luck :)


Normally, I would say it is my 2 boys (one turning 8 and the other turning 10), but actually they are my stress RELIEVERS right now! All of my stress comes directly from my 30 yr old BIL and his 2 cats - living with us - no job - not helping out any - no concrete plans to leave.

We agreed to help him out until he got his masters degree, but that time has come and gone (December) and there is no light at the end of the tunnel!

Lisa
05-04-2012, 01:52 AM
Uuuughhh, tomorrow is my test for the senior position, I should be studying ...but I want to play!

missdamsel
05-04-2012, 02:03 AM
Good Luck!!


Uuuughhh, tomorrow is my test for the senior position, I should be studying ...but I want to play!

Colleen
05-04-2012, 04:12 PM
Good luck, Lisa. I hope all goes well! :)

nutsaboutgabe
05-11-2012, 07:34 PM
Lisa, how did your test go?


Uuuughhh, tomorrow is my test for the senior position, I should be studying ...but I want to play!