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missdamsel
04-24-2012, 07:22 PM
Why do people put things on their Facebook that they either

A) don't want made public- such as a simple statement that makes people question what's going on and then refuse to tell you.

B) or ask for opinions they really don't want?? Such as this morning my daughter asked, "Has anyone ever had the energy drink cocaine? I'm curious about it." of course some of her friends replied and she stated, "It has about nine times the caffeine of mountain dew" and when I posted my opinion about how dangerous they are she deleted it and texted a nasty text to me.

DRIVES me nuts!!!

Sarah
04-24-2012, 07:27 PM
I think Rachel was just complaining that she's tired.
I don't approve of the deleting of the comment or the nasty text, but knowing Rachel, I seriously doubt she'd do it (and I'm hoping it's Rachel that did it, and not the daughter a year younger than me, because that's just immature ;))

missdamsel
04-24-2012, 07:29 PM
Nope, not Rachel, it was the eldest daughter.

Sarah
04-24-2012, 07:32 PM
Nope, not Rachel, it was the eldest daughter.

I totally forehead slapped.
I will admit that I have been so tired that I have considered the 5-Hour stuff, but not going to do it (weird heartbeat sometimes, so yeah, results could be dangerous), but wow. If I don't like a comment, I just ignore it. Or I grumble about it and move on.

I will admit to deleting some comments, but they've been truly nasty, like ones bad-mouthing my parenting and stuff, but that's on another social network and those people have thus been banned ;)

nutsaboutgabe
04-24-2012, 07:40 PM
I can't stand when people use Facebook as their personal diary! It's not to air your dirty laundry. It's meant to be social. I don't need to know every detail of your life. I also don't like when people say good morning and good night to Facebook. I don't get it. I see it, I ignore, but it still bugs me.

missdamsel
04-24-2012, 07:41 PM
I am guilty of the occassional good night, BUT that is because my older kids tend to call late at night and that is to let them know i am heading to bed earlier than normal!!

Sarah
04-24-2012, 07:43 PM
I can't stand when people use Facebook as their personal diary! It's not to air your dirty laundry. It's meant to be social. I don't need to know every detail of your life. I also don't like when people say good morning and good night to Facebook. I don't get it. I see it, I ignore, but it still bugs me.

I do that sometimes ... usually when I'm waking up WAY too early, or really late, and it's more of a "Um, is it really morning?" kind of thing.

I also update a lot :O BUT ... I'm a talker. My husband can verify I update FB/social media as often as I talk, hehe

Sarah
04-24-2012, 07:43 PM
I am guilty of the occassional good night, BUT that is because my older kids tend to call late at night and that is to let them know i am heading to bed earlier than normal!!

I do that sometimes for that reason, so I don't get Messenger updates. I have them go to the phone, and that's a rude awakening sometimes.

StarWarsFans
04-24-2012, 08:04 PM
It's for this reason I took a 6 month break from FB. When I started a new account, I decided to use it very sparingly. I feel I have a much better handle on it now. I was posting a lot and getting my feelings hurt. Now I rarely post and when I do, it's for a specific person,not a status update.

Ambelleina
04-24-2012, 08:19 PM
Facebook is a tool for the outreach of extreme narcissism and is far more trouble than it's worth.

missdamsel
04-24-2012, 08:28 PM
Unfortunately my extended family has decided that FB is the only means for communication so I can't do away with it if I want to know what is going on. I even found out that my grandson was in the hospital with pneumonia thru Facebook! **sigh**

Sarah
04-24-2012, 08:30 PM
Unfortunately my extended family has decided that FB is the only means for communication so I can't do away with it if I want to know what is going on. I even found out that my grandson was in the hospital with pneumonia thru Facebook! **sigh**

*hugs*

I was notified via FB that my grandfather was dying ... found out through a POST that he'd passed away.
My cousins? Have my cellphone number :(

Ambelleina
04-24-2012, 08:47 PM
Unfortunately my extended family has decided that FB is the only means for communication so I can't do away with it if I want to know what is going on. I even found out that my grandson was in the hospital with pneumonia thru Facebook! **sigh**

I hate that even more. My boyfriend just found out his mother is getting re-married through Facebook. A picture popped up on his feed of her with an engagement ring and her changed "relationship status."

It's totally sickening that people can't even pick up the phone anymore.

Sarah
04-24-2012, 08:50 PM
My sister uses it to air her "I'm drunk and not taking care of my kid antics" and to pick fights with my brother who said he misses MY kids, and he sees her ONE all the time (He hasn't seen his niece and nephew in about 3 years because the last time I was in Indiana, he was up-state, and I don't mean that as a euphemism LOL).

My brother also uses it to try and look "redneck" by misspelling everything and then blames auto-correct
I'll admit my random period.between.words I do is because of my phone, and that's because the space button is so close to the period button

mamaape
04-24-2012, 11:09 PM
Facebook is a tool for the outreach of extreme narcissism and is far more trouble than it's worth.


#extremenarcissist (but I have a super cute kid too)

Sarah
04-24-2012, 11:10 PM
I overshare. Always. It's who I am. Ask people in Friday night's chat ;) hehe

Neverland Scraps
04-24-2012, 11:39 PM
I am guilty of the occassional good night, BUT that is because my older kids tend to call late at night and that is to let them know i am heading to bed earlier than normal!!

I do that too because my old neighbor is famous for texting me all hours of the night if she doesn't see me say Im leaving fb. Its either "Im leaving, see y'all tomorrow" or I get my phone bleeping off all night until I get up out of bed and tell her Im sleeping!

I am sorry about the whole situation. I have a couple friends who complain about everything and anything but nothing in specific and if you ask about it, they get in your face like you shouldn't know. It is rather annoying.

I do daily updates about our day, but again thats' because we are so far away from friends and family that they check in on us through FB so they aren't calling daily (thank goodness because I'd never get anything done if I were on the phone all day!)

Ambelleina
04-25-2012, 12:21 AM
I overshare. Always. It's who I am. Ask people in Friday night's chat ;) hehe

*coughiknowyourhusband'sfavoriteanimalcough*

Sarah
04-25-2012, 12:22 AM
*coughiknowyourhusband'sfavoriteanimalcough*

hehe

Tree City
04-25-2012, 01:52 AM
As to Missi's OP: Missi, it's cuz you're her mom. LOL, she doesn't want your opinion (which includes the truth about the drink's unhealthy contents), she just wants to brag about it with her friends. It doesn't matter how old she is... I know cuz I get annoyed when my mom posts Motherly things on my fb statuses rotfl! :) But she didn't have to delete and she definitely didn't have to send you a nasty text!


I hate that even more. My boyfriend just found out his mother is getting re-married through Facebook. A picture popped up on his feed of her with an engagement ring and her changed "relationship status."

It's totally sickening that people can't even pick up the phone anymore.

And as far as this: I was very careful to make sure that my parents, brother and SIL, and DH's and my close family/friends knew about DS's birth in February BEFORE it was posted online. I also warned my mom and brother (who posts freaking EVERYTHING on fb) not to post about DS's birth until after I did. Thankfully they listened to me and didn't post, so people could hear about it from me. :)

And I was so afraid that my loud mouth brother would post the name we'd picked out for DS on fb before he was born that I didn't tell him the name. Heck, I didn't even tell my mom cuz I was afraid she'd tell my brother and he'd blab it on fb! And only my close family (like my mom and dad--since they were flying down to visit lol) knew my c-s date. I only said "mid February" when people on fb asked when I was due.

prettyingreen
04-25-2012, 02:18 AM
uugh my brother and my friend from back home always fight with their other half through facebook... really! it makes me so mad i just want to say something stupid but i dont because its FACEBOOK!

oh and i tried the 5 hour energy stuff once, only drank half and it make me sick i laid on the sofa the rest of the day :( i used to drink that pop called surge, but i dont think they make it any more.

Sarah
04-25-2012, 02:31 AM
Josh and I "bicker" on FB, but its usually all in fun.

MnMommy2
04-25-2012, 02:55 AM
I am an oversharer for sure on Facebook. I often put out the disclaimer, feel free to delete or hide me because I do post a lot.

Harmonystar
04-25-2012, 03:14 AM
I'm one of those people who absolutely hate talking on the phone so I usually post things on facebook that I should be calling about. Lucky for me my mom is good and made sure to call my grandma to tell her I was pregnant before she learned it from facebook *blush in embarrassment* However I do also believe that you need to remember who has access to your posts and comments on facebook. And if you don't want comments from them you probably shouldn't have posted in the first place. ;)

Tree City
04-25-2012, 04:20 AM
Your GRANDMA is on fb?! That's pretty wild. My grandpa doesn't own a computer lol. Keeps things simple, though. If I want to talk to him then I actually have to TALK to him! :)
facebook is a double-edged sword. It has helped me reconnect with a very dear friend. But on the other hand, it's made me realize that some of my friends have such bigoted/scientifically incorrect/just plain rude viewpoints that IDK if I can be friends with them in real life, let alone on a social networking site.

scrappydoo82
04-25-2012, 09:34 PM
I was thinking the same question the other day. One of our Army friends aired some personal things going on with his new wife right out on FB, then got mad at his sister for posting her opinion about airing it out for the world to see when they should learn how to pick up a phone and speak to each other, he said some ugly things to her and deleted her, and continued to argue with his wife on FB for all of us to see.

GingerScraps
04-28-2012, 03:54 PM
I'm just now stumbling onto this thread.
It is insane how Facebook has taken over the world!! Just a few years ago it didn't even exist.
I do love it for somethings, like catching up with extended family, and old friends.
But I hate... Pervert guys leaving weird comments on posts. I have old friends from school, that I have had to remove because out of no where they decide to post gross comments. Just because I'm single does not mean I want your comments.

And 2.
The nagging late night yearning to stalk people. Lol. Specifically my ex husband, and his new girlfriend (well now fiance, I just found that out yesterday). It is just destructive, but sometimes I can't stay away. Everytime I go look at their pages it makes me sick, but I still look. Lol. They are not doing anything "wrong" just being happy and very in love.... But ya being the jaded exwife... Lol... That is really bothers me to see him so happy and in love. So I know what your thinking ... DON'T LOOK! I know, I know, I hardly ever do, but once in a blue moon, I can't resist. I regret it every time!


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missdamsel
04-28-2012, 05:14 PM
My old supervisor decided that she was done with her marriage and when she told her husband hey were over HE got on her FB and posted as her and told the world she didn't love him anymore, etc. It was very sad. He did post a comment admitting it was him and not her, but since she had a bunch of work people on her FB, she ha dto delete her FB for a while. It was crazy!!

GingerScraps
04-28-2012, 05:38 PM
Ugh, that's awful!

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Ambelleina
04-28-2012, 05:40 PM
But I hate... Pervert guys leaving weird comments on posts. I have old friends from school, that I have had to remove because out of no where they decide to post gross comments. Just because I'm single does not mean I want your comments.


One time, I got "Wow, you look good. Way better than you did in high school. Are you still single?"

Um...THANKS. :sly

Sarah
04-28-2012, 05:42 PM
One time, I got "Wow, you look good. Way better than you did in high school. Are you still single?"

Um...THANKS. :sly

I've gotten that, but I was gaunt and half-bald (Trich (http://www.trich.org))

GingerScraps
04-28-2012, 05:55 PM
Don't get me wrong ... I don't mind a compliment ;)
But the prev comments is what bugs me.

Like I will posted a simple "ahh clean sheets" and one guy said, "invite me over and I will help ya get them all dirty"

I was so grossed out! This was a random old friend, not old boyfriend, just some guy I haven't seen in 10 years, who felt the need to post that.
Really??
I PMed him, please don't post inappropriate stuff on my FB. And deleted the comment. It's just odd, the way some guys think being gross will actually get a girl to like them.

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Sarah
04-28-2012, 05:56 PM
Don't get me wrong ... I don't mind a compliment ;)
But the prev comments is what bugs me.

Like I will posted a simple "ahh clean sheets" and one guy said, "invite me over and I will help ya get them all dirty"

I was so grossed out! This was a random old friend, not old boyfriend, just some guy I haven't seen in 10 years, who felt the need to post that.
Really??
I PMed him, please don't post inappropriate stuff on my FB. And deleted the comment. It's just odd, the way some guys think being gross will actually get a girl to like them.

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Eww!! Josh won't even post that. He'll text me the response, but never publicly on FB

nutsaboutgabe
04-28-2012, 11:30 PM
I luckily haven't encountered the perv stuff, but I rarely post anything.

As for the #2 post...it's hard to be in your situation. I think all of us would look and regret it everytime. I'm sure it's not easy for you to deal with but you will find love again.


I'm just now stumbling onto this thread.
It is insane how Facebook has taken over the world!! Just a few years ago it didn't even exist.
I do love it for somethings, like catching up with extended family, and old friends.
But I hate... Pervert guys leaving weird comments on posts. I have old friends from school, that I have had to remove because out of no where they decide to post gross comments. Just because I'm single does not mean I want your comments.

And 2.
The nagging late night yearning to stalk people. Lol. Specifically my ex husband, and his new girlfriend (well now fiance, I just found that out yesterday). It is just destructive, but sometimes I can't stay away. Everytime I go look at their pages it makes me sick, but I still look. Lol. They are not doing anything "wrong" just being happy and very in love.... But ya being the jaded exwife... Lol... That is really bothers me to see him so happy and in love. So I know what your thinking ... DON'T LOOK! I know, I know, I hardly ever do, but once in a blue moon, I can't resist. I regret it every time!


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kelley
04-28-2012, 11:56 PM
I hate that kind of thing too. I normally hide updates from people who routinely bring the drama. I use it post my pics mostly for family that is far away, but I have plenty of scrapping friends on there too.

Mandalue
04-29-2012, 04:19 AM
I must be pretty lucky because I don't have any drama on FB - thankfully!! I used to post updates a lot more frequently, but now a days I'm usually just posting pictures or something new that my son is able to do.

I have my deceased brother-in-laws girlfriend as a friend on FB and it seems like she brings a lot of drama but it doesn't involve me. She's always complaining about everything and everyone in her posts and calling people out but not actually naming them. I've even seen her have arguments with my nephew (he's 12) on FB because he was fed up with reading about her drama all of the time.

Tree City
04-29-2012, 04:25 AM
OMG, if a guy posted something like that sheet comment, I think I'd freak, even if it were someone I knew reallly well (and knew they were just kidding). DH and I barely "talk" on fb. If we do, it's to post recipes (he loves to cook) or to PM to say "Hey, don't forget to pick up ABC at the store tonight!" lol.

So I thought about this thread when I checked my fb tonight. My SIL (my brother's wife) is a bridesmaid today at her best friend's wedding. Guess who wrote about sex on one of my fb posts tonight? SHE DID! I'd forgotten that she was in a wedding today (meaning, she's now at a very liquor-infused reception!), so when I read her very misspelled, very inappropriate post, I was like "WTH?! Did someone take over my SIL's fb page?!" Nope: she's just drunk lol. And her status update is a (very misspelled) comment about a very inappropriate thing. I'm pretty sure it's a song quote, but I'm also pretty sure it's not a song you'd play at a wedding!
My point? If you're drinking, turn off your cell phone's 4G! Or your computer's wi fi! You don't need to be posting crazy/random/inappropriate things. Just saying. ;)

Sarah
04-29-2012, 01:00 PM
Hey, some of my best posts are drunken rambling. I just make sure autocorrect is on

GingerScraps
04-29-2012, 02:22 PM
Barb, your so sweet :)

Sara, I DID freak! I'm so glad it came to my phone because so I could delete it almost instantly. He said a few other odd things too, once I said "I love the smell of rain" and he commented something like, "I'd love for you to stand out side in the rain wearing a white tshirt." Of course I deleted it and PMed him about it. If he does one more I will have to delete him. But he's someone that lives near me, so I have been trying to avoid totally deleting him. Since I actually might see him IRL, and he is friends with my cousins, who all live in my community. I'm trying to avoid the whole, "what a b-word, ginger deleted me." Which I know he would tell everyone and make a big deal about it. I'm trying to keep the peace, but ugh it is so gross and annoying!

And I bet your SIL will be embarrassed when she sees what she wrote. Lol. Yikes.Haha.

WendyBird
05-02-2012, 03:01 PM
ew Ginger! Luckily I've never had to deal with perv comments like that, but I am definitely guilty of some ex-h stalking *blush* I got past it though, and so will you!

msbrad
05-02-2012, 03:39 PM
I'm not big on FB. Yes, I think many people share too much out there. I also do not like if I've replied to 'something', that I continue to receive everyone else's reply too. If anyone knows how to turn that feature off, I'd appreciate it.
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missdamsel
05-02-2012, 03:45 PM
Michi,

I do not have timeline and this is probably different if you do. But I go to the top right and click on home and choose account settings.

Then in left column you choose nitifications.

Then you scroll down and edit what you want changed.

Hope that helps.

Terra
05-02-2012, 04:12 PM
People do that because they want people to agree with them or give them permission to do what they already want to do... Sort of a "validation"... They don't actually want a REAL conversation... and I think they definitely don't want "mom" weighing in... It's ridiculous how crazy social media is getting...